5 Lesbian Sex Tips to Make Foreplay Fabulous

As we're branching out to represent more couples, we also want to let couples know how we can help each other. For instance, who wouldn't love to learn cunnilingus technique from a lesbian? Gents and ladies alike--this is a valuable skill. One that needs to be honed! These are lesbian sex secrets brought to you by GetLusty's lesbian writer, Milan Weasley.

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Lesbian sex is intense. Whether this is your first try, you're a pro, or you're part of a straight couple wanting to change things up, these are tips to heat up any bedroom.

#1 Get comfortable!

On average, it takes a woman 15-40 minutes to reach orgasm. So whether you're partaking in cunnilingus or intercourse, be prepared to invest some time. I find that once I only realize I'm in an uncomfortable spot right before my partner is about to orgasm. Then, I'm left to fight the pain until she's climaxed. Combat this by avoiding it. Pillows are your friend!

#2 Become a sexplorer

Women, individually, are unique. No two bodies are exactly the same. Touch her all over. Then, touch her all over again. What may turn you on, may not turn her on. And even if you've been with your partner for years, that doesn't mean there's no more exploring. There's always more to explore. A place you can't stand to be touched, may send her over the edge. This doesn't only apply to foreplay. During intercourse or cunnilingus, pay attention to her responses and sounds. These tell you what to keep doing and what to stop or change. In addition, don't forget to constantly communicate during sex!

#3 Stop n' go

Cunnilingus is a great. It focuses attention around one of the areas need for climax: the clit. But don't go straight for it. Tease her, caress her, use your tongue. Tease her by using your fingertips to trace lines up and down her inner thighs. Kiss from her inner thighs to her lips. Graze your lips along her labia. It's all about the build up and the tease. Bring her to the brink of climax, then stop. And do it again. You'll leave her begging for more.

#4 It's all about multiplicity 

Men can have multiple orgasms. Indeed, women can have multiple orgasms, too! The great thing about female orgasm is that we're not done after one. The even better thing about lesbian sex is, because of that, it can last for hours. It may take some dedication to achieve the first orgasm, but each after will be easier to reach. After she orgasms, don't stop! Kiss her lightly to slowly build back up to another orgasm. Just be gentle. After an orgasm some areas, especially the clit, are very sensitive. Just gently kiss and caress, until she seems ready for another climax. And she'll be able to reach another.

#5 Spice it up with sex toys

Toys aren't just for kids. Sex toys can be a welcome addition for your bedroom! They can take her from the edge of climax to over the edge! They can enhance moves and spice up even the most simple of positions. Whether it's a vibrator during cunnilingus or intercourse, or a strap-on to change things up. One of my favorite toys is the Wartenberg pinwheel. The cold metal being traced over sensitive skin gives an erotic feeling like no other.

We're all about spicing things up here at GetLusty! Do you have other recommendations? We'd love to hear about them below in the comment section. Alternatively, send Milan feedback directly at the e-mail address in her bio (milan@getlusty.com).

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This is a guest post by GetLusty staff writer Milan Weasley. She's pretty amazing. We're so excited to have Milan as one of our first lesbian writers. (Ah! Dykes and dildos!) She spends her days procrastinating grad school and her nights procrastinating everything else. She enjoys writing, gogo dancing, sewing, pole dancing, and defending the Oxford comma.


Questions, comments or article ideas? Get in touch with Milan at milan@getlusty.com.

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Our 10 Favorite Feminist Porn Stars

We love porn! If you do too, and we assume you do, otherwise you wouldn't be reading this article, then you need to know about the following women. These aren't any ordinary porn stars. These are our top ten favorite feminist porn stars. GetLusty's Stephanie Kathleen takes a peek into the provocative lives of some incredibly unique feminists.

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#1 Dylan Ryan

The gorgeous and outspoken Ryan began her film career in 2004 at the urging of director and producer Shine Louise Heart. In 2009, she was the recipient of a Feminist Porn Award for Heartthrob of the Year. One of the top stars of the queer porn genre, Ryan strives to make unique and authentic films. Check out her blog, triple-xxx-ploits, to see her recent interview with Tristan Taormino. Also, follow her on Twitter @thedylanryan

#2 Belladonna

Since beginning her career in the adult entertainment industry in 1999, this stunning film star has practically revolutionized the industry. In 2003, she started her own production company, Belladonna Entertainment. She now produces and directs some of the most popular hardcore adult films in the world. We couldn’t possibly omit her from our list of favorites, as she is clearly a badass. Follow her on Twitter @BelladonnaENT

#3 Lily Cade

Though she is somewhat new to the adult film scene, this one-time dominatrix has already made a name for herself. A rising star in the lesbian porn genre, Cade made her directorial debut in 2011 with Art School Dykes. The film was nominated for a Feminist Porn Award. When she’s not busy filming, Cade is an outspoken activist. Yea, she pretty much rocks. Follow her on Twitter @lily_cade

#4 Judy Minx

It’s hard not to love Madame Minx. The French adult film actress is also a sex performer, a sex educator, and a queer/feminist/sex-positive activist…and she’s only 23! Oh, and did we mention she also holds a degree in English? Keep an eye on this porn prodigy, as we’re sure to see a lot more of her in the future. Follow her on Twitter @judyminx

#5 Ela Darling

This former librarian decided to make a major career change three years ago and began starring in lesbian, bondage and fetish porn. Prior to pursuing a career in porn, Darling earned both a Bachelor’s and Master’s degree. We gladly include her among our favorites because we think self-possessed, intelligent porn stars are incredibly sexy. If you don’t believe us, check out her website and see for yourself! Follow her on Twitter @ElaDarling

#6 Bobbi Starr


This pro-sex feminist porn star began her career doing bondage and submission scenes for internet-based companies. We love Ms. Starr’s philosophy when it comes to feminism and porn: “I believe that if women realize that sex is something that is there for them as well, then it is not necessary to hate sex to be a feminist. It is not just pleasurable for one person but is pleasurable for that person's partner as well.” She currently writes, directs and performs for the website Electrosluts, which she created. Check out her work here. Follow her on Twitter @Bobbistarr


#7 April Flores

A star of the BBW scene, April Flores describes herself as “a fearless voluptuous star with scarlet hair, proponent of the queer community, feminist, sex-positive activist, outspoken advocate of body diversity, glamorous art model, avid kink fan, Sub and Dom both, and all around powerful woman.” With numerous magazine covers and modeling appearances to her name, Miss Flores considers herself an activist for positive body image. Visit her website and you’ll quickly see why she made our list of favorites! Follow her on Twitter @Fatty_D

#8 Madison Young

Indie porn pioneer Madison Young considers herself “one of the world’s kinkiest feminists. “Her films are known for exploring the more artistic and authentic aspects of the pornographic experience. She also runs a nonprofit art gallery and performance space, which serves the LGBT and Kink communities. Do yourself a favor and pay a visit to her website. Now! Follow her on Twitter @madisonyoung

#9 Kelly Shibari

Not only is Kelly Shibari a prolific BBW porn actress, she’s also a successful businesswoman with a MENSA-level IQ. She also runs her own PR and social media marketing firm. In short, the woman is driven and she knows what she wants. Through her websites she is revolutionizing the BBW and BDSM genres. Our interview with Kelly is coming out soon. Stay tuned! Follow her on Twitter: Follow her on Twitter @KellyShibari

#10 Maggie Mayhem

As one half of the dynamic duo behind the porn website Meet The Mayhems, Maggie Mayhem is a porn star with an eclectic style. In her words: “When it comes to sex, Maggie identifies as a queer, slutty kinkster. Neither wholly dominant nor submissive Maggie is always on the lookout for wild, adventurous fun with anyone who sparks her interest.” We’re crushing on Maggie not just because of her amazing on-screen talent, but also because of the dedicated work she has done and continues to do in the way of HIV prevention. Check her out! Follow her on Twitter @MsMaggieMayhem

We're excited to have Stephanie Kathleen on as a staff writer! Stephanie has long believed she is a gay man trapped in a woman's body. She is a lover of good food, good sex and good grammar. A recent transplant to Chicago, she spends her free time with her super-duper-fly boyfriend and their three "kids" (2 cats, 1 dog). She has a blog. She's still trying to get the whole Twitter thing down. You can follow her @Vanderfloozie. Want to get in touch with her? E-mail stephanie@getlusty.com.

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