Getting teary-eyed from feeling as though you are choking is not what I consider a good time. So how do we get over this gag sensation? How can you learn to deep-throat your man's cock without feeling like puking? Here are some positions and tips that should get you deep-throating in the sexiest of ways in no time! And you might still gag. That's just your natural reflex. If you're gagging too much, we'd recommend some other loving blowjob techniques. Maybe in a surprising new location?
Disclaimer! The banana shouldn't be unpeeled! Please--if you're choking, stop! Don't die. That'd be really bad.
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Gagging is a natural reflex. I even gag at the dentist's office. So, how do you expect me not to gag when I try to deep-throat my guy's penis? With some research and a little bit of practice, here are some tips that we believe will help make deep-throating more comfortable, leading to a more confident and sexy blowjob.
What is deep-throating?
Deep-throating is the action of taking a penis deep into your mouth, even down your throat. This is a sensational feeling for men, but for the givers - not so much. In order to comfortably let the penis reach the back of your throat, you need to learn how to control your gag reflex and try out some sexual positions that will make this easier on you.
#1 Practice
Of course practice makes perfect. If you are too nervous to practice on a real penis, try deep-throating some inanimate objects. Use a banana (unpeeled) or dildo to get a feeling of what it will feel like. Your gag reflex will adjust to the new sensations. Hold the banana or your fingers at the back of your throat for 10 seconds.
Continue to breathe through your nose and relax your throat. Your gag reflex will react to this, but hold the object there at the back of your throat no matter how much you convulse or cough. Over time, if you practice this a few times a week, you will have desensitized your gag reflex a lot. Next, go one step further. Attempt sliding the banana, or dildo, in & out of your mouth and down your throat. Remember to breathe, relax, and go slow. Once you master this, you can master the real thing.
When you are ready to try it out on your man, don't tell him! Surprise is your best friend here because there won't be that pressure to perform. Begin with giving him a blowjob in order to smoothly transition into deep-throating. When you feel ready to try out the deep-throat action, slowly take his penis to the back of your throat and then back out. Build a steady rhythm going in and out of your throat to drive him wild and to keep you focused, calm, and relaxed. If you feel uncomfortable, go back to giving him a hand job/blowjob. Since you never told him about your deep-throat experiment he won't know a thing and you can continue practicing on that banana until you feel ready to try again.
What is deep-throating?
Deep-throating is the action of taking a penis deep into your mouth, even down your throat. This is a sensational feeling for men, but for the givers - not so much. In order to comfortably let the penis reach the back of your throat, you need to learn how to control your gag reflex and try out some sexual positions that will make this easier on you.
#1 Practice
Of course practice makes perfect. If you are too nervous to practice on a real penis, try deep-throating some inanimate objects. Use a banana (unpeeled) or dildo to get a feeling of what it will feel like. Your gag reflex will adjust to the new sensations. Hold the banana or your fingers at the back of your throat for 10 seconds.
Continue to breathe through your nose and relax your throat. Your gag reflex will react to this, but hold the object there at the back of your throat no matter how much you convulse or cough. Over time, if you practice this a few times a week, you will have desensitized your gag reflex a lot. Next, go one step further. Attempt sliding the banana, or dildo, in & out of your mouth and down your throat. Remember to breathe, relax, and go slow. Once you master this, you can master the real thing.
When you are ready to try it out on your man, don't tell him! Surprise is your best friend here because there won't be that pressure to perform. Begin with giving him a blowjob in order to smoothly transition into deep-throating. When you feel ready to try out the deep-throat action, slowly take his penis to the back of your throat and then back out. Build a steady rhythm going in and out of your throat to drive him wild and to keep you focused, calm, and relaxed. If you feel uncomfortable, go back to giving him a hand job/blowjob. Since you never told him about your deep-throat experiment he won't know a thing and you can continue practicing on that banana until you feel ready to try again.
#2 Breathe
Giving head can get hot and steamy fast. Remembering to come up for air and breathe through your nose will help keep your entire body relaxed. When your muscles are relaxed, the deep-throat action becomes that much easier to reach. Once the penis is at the back of your throat, it becomes harder to breathe. Focus on relaxing your throat and continue to breathe through your nose. If this proves too difficult, practice having a rhythmic breathing technique. Take a big inhale as he slides his penis out of your throat and exhale before his penis goes back down your throat. You'll have to hold your breathe so make sure he isn't down your throat for too long.
#3 Slow and steadyFast and frequent motions can lead to a more sensitive gag reflex. Moving at a slow and steady pace will keep you relaxed and will also help you deep-throat. Rapid movements will definitely lead to gagging.
But allowing the penis to slowly go deeper and deeper into your throat is much more pleasurable for both parties involved. Guys are turned on by the steady build-up of speed and rhythm and the giver feels sexier and more able to open the throat up. When you are in positions where you are less in control, establish trust. Let you partner know how much trust you are putting in him by allowing him to deep-throat you. Tell him to go slow until you give him consent to go faster.
Deep-throat positions
Here are some positions that will help get his penis deeper into your throat. Once you have practiced and desensitized your gag reflex, try out these positions for maximum penetration. To really open up for a great deep-throat blowjob, you need your throat and his penis parallel to one another. Here are 3 positions that will let you deep-throat with ease. Remember, communicate when trying anything new!
As always communicate with one another. If you absolutely can't get rid of your gag reflex or just don't want to try deep-throating at all, then be honest with him. There are many other blowjob techniques and positions to experiment with that will still keep your relationship steamy.
Speaking of blowjobs, have you 'Liked' GetLusty on Facebook yet? We're giving away a Tiani 2 to a lucky 'Liker' by December 1st. We're also on Pinterest and Tumblr, as well as Twitter @getlusty. What?! You're on those platforms and aren't in tune with our awesome content? Have amazing sex. Get lusty.
Lora is a GetLusty staff writer and our resident health-nut. When she is not writing and editing, you can find her on her yoga mat, exploring Chicago via bicycle, or hanging out with her wonderful boyfriend in their north side apartment. She has a habit of spending too much money on soy lattes and yoga clothes. Find her on Twitter @HoneyNutLo. Have any questions? Reach her at Editorial@GetLusty.com.
Here are some positions that will help get his penis deeper into your throat. Once you have practiced and desensitized your gag reflex, try out these positions for maximum penetration. To really open up for a great deep-throat blowjob, you need your throat and his penis parallel to one another. Here are 3 positions that will let you deep-throat with ease. Remember, communicate when trying anything new!
#1 Wide legged stance
Have him stand with his legs spread wide. Shimmy yourself underneath his penis so your mouth is directly beneath him. Tilt your head back and angle his penis downward into your mouth. This is still a fun position because he can grab your hair, or caress your head and guide your head as you go deeper.
Have him stand with his legs spread wide. Shimmy yourself underneath his penis so your mouth is directly beneath him. Tilt your head back and angle his penis downward into your mouth. This is still a fun position because he can grab your hair, or caress your head and guide your head as you go deeper.
#2 Have him straddle you
Lay on your back. Have your guy kneel over you and straddle your head with his knees close to your armpits. Place a few pillows under your head, and begin to give him a blowjob. This position provides for a very deep blowjob and the angle at which he is in your mouth will not induce gagging because he is against your throat and not your tongue/top of the back of your throat. However, you are very submissive in this pose so trust needs to be established beforehand. With his hands on your head he has control of how deep he goes.
#3 Upside down blowjob
Lie down facing up on a bed. Let your head hang off the edge of the bed so you are mildly inverted. Have him stand facing you and let him enter your mouth with his penis. This blowjob position is great because he can really get deep in your throat. However, this position requires a lot of trust as he will have the control in this situation, and you are at his mercy.
Communicate and tell him to go slowly so that you don't gag. Being upside down is disorientating so just tell him to go slow and steady until you are more comfortable in this position. If you want to be the only one in control here (understandable) then you can easily reach around him and grab his butt cheeks, back of thighs or waist to draw him closer toward you and control the speed and depth of the thrust. Thanks Wikipedia for this position picture.
Communicate and tell him to go slowly so that you don't gag. Being upside down is disorientating so just tell him to go slow and steady until you are more comfortable in this position. If you want to be the only one in control here (understandable) then you can easily reach around him and grab his butt cheeks, back of thighs or waist to draw him closer toward you and control the speed and depth of the thrust. Thanks Wikipedia for this position picture.
As always communicate with one another. If you absolutely can't get rid of your gag reflex or just don't want to try deep-throating at all, then be honest with him. There are many other blowjob techniques and positions to experiment with that will still keep your relationship steamy.
Speaking of blowjobs, have you 'Liked' GetLusty on Facebook yet? We're giving away a Tiani 2 to a lucky 'Liker' by December 1st. We're also on Pinterest and Tumblr, as well as Twitter @getlusty. What?! You're on those platforms and aren't in tune with our awesome content? Have amazing sex. Get lusty.
Lora is a GetLusty staff writer and our resident health-nut. When she is not writing and editing, you can find her on her yoga mat, exploring Chicago via bicycle, or hanging out with her wonderful boyfriend in their north side apartment. She has a habit of spending too much money on soy lattes and yoga clothes. Find her on Twitter @HoneyNutLo. Have any questions? Reach her at Editorial@GetLusty.com. 
