3 Must Read Books on Cunnilingus

Just in time for New Years! It's the holidays, and you might still be thinking about gifts for that special person in your life. Well, books are a good way to show you care--and note how much you love making love with them. You want you both to have better sex, so maybe your partner would like to read an oral sex book together? On top of that, we had a great response for other 3 Books on Giving the Best Cunnilingus. GetLusty writer Stephanie Vanderwall brings you 3 of the best books on cunnilingus.

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When it comes to blowing a woman’s mind, these authors know what they’re talking about! So pick your favorite, study up, and try out some new tips and tricks on that lovely lady of yours.

#1 Oral Sex That’ll Blow Her Mind: An Illustrated Guide to Giving Her Amazing Orgasms

By Shanna Katz

You can’t be a superstar sex partner until you’ve mastered the subtle art of cunnilingus. For starters, you need to get your timing down, learn what licks feel good and how to be sure your partner is truly enjoying your efforts. Luckily, Oral Sex That’ll Blow Her Mind teaches all this and a whole lot more. Whether you’re just getting started or are practically an oral expert, this book has just what you need. It’s packed with tips and techniques to improve those tingling tongue moves and features tastefully erotic photos of positions perfect for oral pleasuring. Oral Sex That’ll Blow Her Mind is far more than a set of skills. It explains how cunnilingus helps you feel connected with your partner (whether you are the giver or the receiver) and how to enrich that experience.

“I really enjoyed this book. Not only was it interesting and informative, it had a really fun tone as well. The author was definitely enjoying herself when she wrote it. Or at least that’s the sense I get then I see a lot of fun alliteration. I appreciated that the book covered a lot of topics from the rank beginner to someone more experienced. I would highly recommend this book to anyone wanting to improve their oral sex technique.” –Amazon Customer

#2 The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus: How to Go Down on a Woman and Give Her Exquisite Pleasure 

By Violet Blue, forward by Margaret Cho

This 2011 Independent Publisher Awards silver medalist is truly the bible of oral sex. The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus gives excellent advice, encouragement, and helpful instruction to those who want to expand their expertise or are simply curious about the art’s finer points. In her clear, concise, and informative text, sex educator Violet Blue provides step-by-step instructions for going down on a woman, as well as accurate and up-to-date information on female anatomy and sexual response.

In her friendly, witty tone, Blue dispatches fascinating facts and discusses games for lovers, positions, safety, and a variety of techniques; she also offers erotic book and DVD recommendations, and tips for effective communication during the act itself. Featuring helpful illustrations and erotica by sexpert Alison Tyler, this is the essential guide to going down.

Sex advice blogger Susie Bright raves: “Violet Blue’s cunnilingus book is the best sheer technique manual I’ve ever read on going down.”

“I think this is a great book. My husband and I never experimented in this area for many reasons...mostly my own insecurity. This book opened my eyes in all directions. If you are looking for a book to help you in this area it is a good one. I have hunted all over and this is by far the best one! Have fun!” –Amazon Customer

#3 The Best Oral Sex Ever: His Guide to Going Down

By Yvonne K. Fulbright, Ph.D.

Eating out has never been so hot. Sexologist Yvonne K. Fulbright exposes the facts and fantastic tricks oral sex aficionados live by in her brazen how-to for men. This guide gives you the tools you need to thrill her every night, including: making cunnilingus the evening's main course or the first stop in a night of multiple orgasms, techniques from the sacred "Flutter of the Butterfly" to modern Oral Sex Acrobatics, how to overcome any woman's oral sex hang-ups, and how to broach the subject of wanting to give her oral sex—even when it makes her nervous.

Packed with the most erotic ideas for pleasuring her, this men's manual will send you running for the covers.

One satisfied Amazon reader says: “This is a fun book, and even better if you have someone to practice on :-) I haven't completely finished it, but so far it's been very informative; a nice balance between being too clinical on the one hand, and too lewd / crude on the other.”

“Great book for learning some finer points to this subject! I learned a lot of new things and my wife benefited! Did talk about some things I already knew yet some might not. 
I strongly recommend this manual because it does meet its purpose plus!” –Barnes & Noble Customer

Stephanie has long believed she is a gay man trapped in a woman's body. She is a lover of good food, good sex and good grammar. A recent transplant to Chicago, she spends her free time with her super-duper-fly boyfriend and their three "kids" (2 cats, 1 dog). She has a blog she writes in every so often. She's still trying to get the whole Twitter thing down, but you can follow her @Vanderfloozie. Want to get in touch with her? Email stephanie@getlusty.com.

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10 Books to Divorce-Proof Your Marriage

GetLusty for Couples is all about -- couples. Marriage is full of happiness and beauty until it's not. Heated arguments, mismatched libidos, and difficult transitions into parenthood can take it's toll on any couple. We've all been there; working through issues and traumas to have the best marriage. To continue with our favorite books on marriage, here are 10 more to help you have the best marriage possible and enhance your relationship. Think your marriage/ couplehood life together is amazing? Now is the perfect time to continue to work on having the best relationship. GetLusty staff writer Jason Estrada reports.

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#1 The Five Languages of Apology: How to Experience Healing in all Your Relationships
Author: Gary D Chapman and Jennifer M. Thomas

According to ChristianBook.com, this book will help you identify your own language of apology and will clear the way toward healing and sustaining all your vital relationships. Through field-tested research the authors detail proven techniques for giving and receiving effective apologies.

"The authors stress that you need to learn the "language" of the person you are apologizing to: for one person, it may be expressing regret, while for another it's accepting responsibility or making restitution. Especially useful is the chapter that helps readers learn which language of apology feels most sincere to them." (Publishers Weekly)

#2 How We Love: Discover Your Love Style, Enhance Your Marriage
Author: Milan Yerkovich and Kay Yerkovich

According to Amazon: In How We Love, relationship experts Milan and Kay Yerkovich draw on the powerful tool of attachment theory to show how your early life experiences created an “intimacy imprint”–an underlying blueprint that shapes your behavior, beliefs, and expectations of all relationships, especially your marriage.

#3 Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship
Author: Stan Tatkin PsyD MFT and Harville Hendrix PhD

According to Amazon: Every person is wired for love differently, with different habits, needs, and reactions to conflict. The good news is that most people's minds work in predictable ways and respond well to security, attachment, and rituals, making it possible to actually neurologically prime the brain for greater love and fewer conflicts. "Wired for Love" is a complete insider's guide to understanding a partner's brain and promoting love and trust within a romantic relationship. Readers learn ten scientific principles they can use to avoid triggering fear and panic in their partners, manage their partners' emotional reactions when they do become upset, and recognize when the brain's threat response is hindering their ability to act in a loving way. By learning to use simple gestures and words, readers can learn to put out emotional fires and help their partners feel more safe and secure.

#4 The Sex-Starved Marriage: Boosting Your Marriage Libido: A Couple's Guide
Author: Michele Weiner-Davis

According to Amazon: 'The Sex-Starved Marriage' offers candid and sensible counsel for couples with mismatched libidos. Seasoned sex therapist Michele Weiner-Davis skewers two stereotypes about sex in marriage. First, she jettisons the idea that husbands are hot and wives are not, giving examples of "low-desire" men in her practice. 

Next, she upends the longstanding model of sexual response and advises readers: "Just do it. Desire is a decision. Once the low-interest partner allows him/herself to be touched and aroused, this will trigger a strong desire to continue being sexual." The strength of her approach to the causes of sexual stalemate lies in her insights about the struggles of both partners. Her suggestions (how to break the ice, how to court your partner, nag busting, and the Hallmark solution) are not gimmicky and are presented as techniques for couples, not individuals." 

#5 Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Coupled Up
Author: Harriet Lerner

According to Amazon: Marriage Rules offers new solutions to age-old problems ("He won't talk"/"She doesn't want sex") as well as modern ones (your partner's relationship to technology.)

"This book is an astonishing blend of down-home wisdom and clinical experience. I can't think of a better comprehensive guide to making marriage work for today's couples. Read it for your own relationship and give it to every newlywed you know." William J. Doherty, Ph.D., professor at the University of Minnesota and author of "Take Back Your Marriage"

#6 Conscious Loving: The Journey to Co-Commitment
Author: Gay Hendricks and Kathlyn Hendricks

According to Amazon: Here is a powerful new program that can clear away the unconscious agreements patterns that undermine even your best intentions. Through their own marriage and through twenty years' experience  counseling more than one thousand couples, therapists Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks have developed precise strategies to help you create a vital partnership and enhance the energy, creativity, and happiness of each individual.

#7 Babyproofing Your Marriage: How to Laugh More and Argue Less As Your Family Grows
Author: Stacie Cockrell, Cathy O'Neill, Julia Stone and Rosario Camacho-Koppel

According to Amazon: Babyproofing Your Marriage is the warts-and-all truth about how having children can affect your relationship. The transition to parenthood can be a tough adjustment for any couple, but the good news is: you are not alone. Better yet, there are hundreds of simple but effective ways you can stay connected as husband and wife and still be good parents. The authors' evenhanded approach to both sides of the marital equation allows spouses to understand each other in a whole new way. With loads of humor, compassion, and practical advice, the Babyproofers will guide first-time parents and veterans alike around the rocky shores of the early parenting years.

#8 Fighting for Your Marriage: A Deluxe Revised Edition of the Classic Best-seller for Enhancing Marriage and Preventing Divorce
Author: Howard J. Markman, Scott M. Stanley and Susan L. Blumberg

According to Amazon: New and revised, Fighting for Your Marriage is based on the widely acclaimed PREP (Prevention and Relationship Enhancement Program) approach. Groundbreaking studies have found that couples can use the strategies of this approach to handle conflict more constructively, protect their happiness, and reduce the odds of breaking up.

#9 Love Busters: Protecting Your Marriage from Habits That Destroy Romantic Love
Author: Willard F. Harley

According to Amazon: How spouses treat each other has a tremendous bearing on the success and failure of marriage. In this completely updated and revised edition of Love Busters, Willard F. Harley, Jr., helps couples identify and overcome the most common habits that destroy the feeling of love, including selfish demands, disrespectful judgments, angry outbursts, dishonesty, annoying habits, and thoughtless behavior. Harley also explains how to resolve common marital conflicts such as career choices and financial planning. You can't eliminate conflict altogether, but once these Love Busters are eliminated, conflicts can be resolved with love and grace. With Harley's expert guidance, couples will be able to avoid those behaviors that tear a marriage apart and focus instead on building their love for each other.

#10 Fight Less, Love More: 5-Minute Conversations to Change Your Relationship without Blowing Up or Giving In
Author: Laurie Puhn

According to Good Reads, In Fight Less, Love More, readers will learn how to identify the bad verbal habits, instinctive responses, and emotional reasoning that can cloud judgment and ultimately lead to the deterioration of otherwise healthy relationships.

"With advice that is nonjudgmental, extremely efficient, and clearly understandable, Puhn covers all aspects of romantic relationships, from problems like infidelity to boundaries giving couples of every strip something of benefit. Eschewing frustrating vagaries, sweeping generalizations, and gender-based assumptions, Puhn's extremely specific guide focuses on simple, rational solutions that primarily revolve around maintaining respect for one's partner. Readers will gain a great deal from her contribution to the genre." (Publishers Weekly)

Jason Estrada is currently working on his master's for creative writing, in the hopes of becoming a very rich screenwriter some day. His other interests include photography, cinematography, and video editing. His favorite book is The Great Gatsby. Favorite movie is either The Crow or When Harry Met Sally - can't decide. And his all time favorite show is Doctor Who.

When he's not enjoying any of those things, you can find him at home, drinking and smoking way too much while listening to VNV Nation. You can email him at jason@getlusty.com, or try his Facebook page.

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Curious About Sex Positive Parenting? Read These Books!

It's never easy being a parent and trying to teach your children the "right" way to learn about sexuality.  There are all kinds of views and perspectives available, so Eileen Prouffe is going to help you find a few resourceful materials that might help you when talking to your own children or maybe even a niece or nephew about sex. Check out her list of sex positive parenting books. They might even be a great gift for someone this holiday season.

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#1 Where Did I Come From? 

By: Peter Mayle

A great way to positively teach your children about sex at a young age. If they grow up around sex and hearing about it, then it might not be such a shock later on and they might be more mature about it. Every kid asks this question at some point, so you might as well address it sooner rather than later.

"This book was very tastefully done illustration and explained in a way that he cold understand while also giving pictures that wouldn't scare him." - Amazon Customer

#2 One Dad, Two Dads, Brown Dads, Blue Dads

By: Johnny Valentine

This book is great for helping children see their parents as people, instead of sexual beings. It's a great way for them to learn to accept people for who they are and as they are, especially as parents. We all know that no parents are perfect and that there are all kinds of parents, so it's a great way for a child to open their minds and not be set in one particular way of parenting.

"I use this book in my preschool classroom with 3,4, and 5 year-olds. They love it, and instantly see the silliness in being afraid or worried about a family with two dads OR blue dads. We use it every year during our unit on families." - Amazon Customer

#3 The Boys Body Book: Everything You Need to Know for Growing Up 

By: Kelli Dunham

This is a great adolescence book can help parents teach their sons about the changes that are going on with their bodies and how to deal with them.

Of course they are going to be experiencing their "wet dreams" and feeling sexual desires, so it's important to address these feelings as they are happening so that they may learn to deal with them in a positive manner - understanding that they are normal, but that certain behaviors are not.

"I bought this book for my son, and it has been perfect for him. He's learned so much valuable information from this book, information that, as a single mom, I was worried I would not be able to pass onto him." - Amazon Customer


#4 Not My Kid: What Parents Believe About the Sex Lives Of Their Teenagers

By: Dr. Sinikka Elliot

A more modern book that focuses on reality and most importantly, your teenager, who needs a lot of guidance and attention at this stage in their life if you want them to make the right decisions about sex. This book is a wake-up call to a lot of parents as many of us forget that our kids are growing up and are constantly surrounded by sex. They are not oblivious to the world and we as parents cannot ignore the situations they have to face. This book is a must-read for parents of pre-teens and teens.

“Beautifully written, engaging, and insightful, Not My Kid advances our critical understanding of the complex tensions, contradictions, and paradoxes parents decipher as they make sense of the sex lives of their adolescent children. Sinikka Elliott invites readers to think critically about the revealing stories of parenting and family life that give life to this relevant book, and the emerging implications for the future of sex education programs and debates in an increasingly diverse and technological society.” - Gloria González-López

#5 I Said No! A Kid-To-Kid Guide To Keeping Your Kid Parts Private

By: Zack and Kimberly King

This is a great book written by a mother and son to help other children know that there are limits on their bodies and that there are ways for them to deal with people who might be trying to cross those boundaries. It's super important for children to know what to do at a very young age.

"I feel CONFIDENT that my daughter will recognize a dangerous situation because of this book! My daughter is starting Kindergarten, so I figured it was time to start teaching her about the "dangers of the world", but in a kid-friendly and easy-to-understand way. Since there are several books on this subject, I read 4 of them - this one, Your Body Belongs to You, Those Are MY Private Parts, and Amazing You! I Said No! is the clear winner, in my opinion." - Amazon Customer

#6  Everything You Never Wanted Your Kids to Know About Sex (But Were Afraid They'd Ask): The Secret to Surviving Your Child's Sexual Development from Birth to the Teens

By: Justin Richardson and Mark Schuster

Richardson and Schuster do a great job at explaining all the proper procedures for how to tell your kids about certain topics and how to confront them at the right time.

There are a lot of topics that your kids are going to have to deal with, from kissing to intercourse and this book covers all of the major situations that are going to arise at some point. It's always better to be prepared.

"Richardson... bring extraordinary expertise and scintillating intelligence to this guide to coping with a child's sexual maturation. Acknowledging that kids are "inherently sexual" (male fetuses, for example, have erections in utero), the authors show how parents can influence their children's sexual development in healthy ways through honest communication." - Publishers Weekly

#7 Between Mom and Jo

By: Julie Anne Peters

This is a great read for children of lesbian parents, especially pre-teens. It will certainly spark a discussion for your family.

Between Mom and Jo shows that every type of couple experiences struggles. The two mom's go through a conflict in the book where the child is left in the middle.  This type of situation might really happen to children, so this book is important for young readers.

"This coming-of-age novel powerfully portrays the universal pain of a family breakup. It also portrays what is still a weird situation to many people (as reflected in the behavior of Nick's babysitter) as totally normal from one young man's point of view." - Beth Gallego, Los Angeles Public Library


#8 Who's Your Mama?  The Unsung Voices of Women and Mothers


By: Yvonne Bynoe

This is a great cultural book that deals with not only sexuality, but politics, class, and race.  Not only do our children have to deal with sex, but many other issues that go along with it as well.  It's important to address all of these issues early to help our children understand that just because they do not have a lot of money or because they are a certain race that they have to give in to pressure from society.

This book will help build confidence and self-esteem.  It's a great book for teenagers to learn about what their mothers might go through.

"Who's your mama? is an incredibly well-written collection of essays about the sorority of motherhood. Each chapter is a different essay telling the challenges of having, longing for, not wanting, or desperately seeking entrance into the complex, yet rewarding status of mother. Every essay concludes with a short biography of the author. Readers will root for, find judgment in, or gain a better understanding of this diverse group of women. The conventional wisdom of modern motherhood is delved deeply into. Each woman explores what motherhood means to her and, in the process, readers will be challenged to face their own hopes, dreams, fears, and realities." - Amazon Customer

#9 The Quick Start Guide To Sex-Positive Parenting

By: Airial Clark

Airial Clark has a lot of knowledge about sex positive parenting and also has a few podcasts. If you have the time to sit down with your child to listen, then it might be a good alternative to just reading a book or forcing a book on your child. However, Clark's guide is a great way to get started with some real experiences.

#10 Relationships and Sex Education (5-11) 

By: Sacha Mason and Richard Woolley

This is an excellent book for adolescents because it reaches them at a young age and helps them learn about sexuality in a positive way.  Many children are not receiving sexual education classes at school so, it's definitely up to the parents to provide the knowledge their children need before their kids are exposed to other kids ideas and the media.

"A sensible, sensitive, well written and easily accessible book that clearly puts the case for relationships education being at the heart of the primary curriculum. It provides an excellent critical analysis of the present situation and demonstrates a clear vision of what is required to help our young children progress successfully towards adulthood. Essential reading for all prospective and serving primary teachers." - Gillian L. S. Hilton, freelance education advisor and Research Supervisor at Middlesex University, UK

We need to make sure our kids are mature enough to handle whatever society throws at them.  Education is key and this is why books, websites, and podcasts are extremely important in assisting us with this difficult job we have as parents.

Sex is something that parents and children should never stop learning about.  It's important to seek out resources in order to assist with this learning process and help ease some of the uncomfortable feelings and emotions that may occur along the way.  Hopefully, some of these reads will help you get started, or continue with sex positive parenting.  Good Luck!

Eileen Prouffe is a GetLusty staff writer with over ten years as a working mom trying to keep her love alive. If she's not having fun with her three kids, she's staring into the eyes of her loving husband. She looks forward to sharing her ideas, tips and knowledge with everyone to help improve relationships and put an end to dull sex lives. Get in touch with Eileen at eileen@getlusty.com.

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Gents! 3 Must Read Books on Your Sexual Health

Just in time for Dick & Dildo December, gents! You eat properly, get plenty of rest, exercise. Well, your sexual health is just as important—not just for you, but also for your partner. We’ve researched extensively of the best men's health books out there by well respected doctors. These books offer sound advice on everything from increasing sex drive to those other not-so-fun topics that many men have dealt with, but never felt comfortable talking about. Pick one of these books up and have your questions answered. Reading is sexy. Healthy is sexy. Therefore, GetLusty's Stephanie Vanderwall brings you 3 great books to keep you sexually tip-top healthy.

Any other questions? Ask us at reply@getlusty.com.

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#1 Men’s Sexual Health: Fitness For Satisfying Sex

By Barry W. McCarthy, Ph.D. and Michael E. Metz, Ph.D.

Men’s Sexual Health is a breakthrough book about vital and satisfying male sexuality. It presents a new model of male and couple sexuality, which establishes positive, realistic expectations of pleasure and satisfaction, as opposed to the self-defeating traditional demand for perfect intercourse performance.

The authors introduce the new “smart thinking,” focused on an integration of mind and body, which confronts the myths and misunderstandings that limit male sexual growth. The book will help men and women understand how to pursue sexual and relational health as well as overcome sexual problems, with the goal of greater acceptance and satisfaction.

Diane Sollee, founder and director of smartmarriages.com urges: “Women, buy this book! Obviously for the man in your life—after all, its goal is to help him achieve a lifelong, intimate, erotic sex life—but, also to read it yourself. Its straightforward, by-men-for-men approach will give you an inside track, and help you know him, and therefore, love him even better.”

"Men's Sexual Health: Fitness for Satisfying Sex is a remarkable contribution to the field of sex therapy. This book should be on the bookshelf of every sex health and sex education professional. This book is great for adults and older adults, but I get even more excited when I think about giving it to young men who don't have sexual problems yet. The tone is reassuring, and the stance is non-judgmental, but decidedly not wishy-washy. The authors take important positions on a number of topics. Men's Sexual Health is destined to be a classic.” –Aline Zoldbrod, Ph.D., in Contemporary Sexuality

#2 Coping With Premature Ejaculation: How to Overcome PE, Please Your Partner & Have Great Sex

By Barry W. McCarthy, Ph.D. and Michael E. Metz, Ph.D.

It is estimated that 30 million American men have problems with premature ejaculation. This book contains the latest, scientifically based, multidimensional methods for overcoming all types of premature ejaculation and includes a complete relapse prevention program.

Coping With Premature Ejaculation explores a multidimensional, bio-psychological approach to dealing with this problem and strengthening your sexual relationship. This book debunks the myths of male sexual performance and analyzes male sexual desire. In it, you’ll learn about the different types of premature ejaculation and use assessment exercises to find out which you suffer from. The book then offers structured, symptom-specific treatment strategies based on psychological, relational, and physiological techniques. Find out ways to prevent relapse as well as enhance and improve your overall sexual relationship. Designed as a resource for couples, this book is a powerful tool for creating support and positive change in your relationship.

Jean D. Koehler, Ph.D., former president of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists (AASECT) lauds: “This is the most comprehensive guide to dealing with premature ejaculation I have ever seen! It addresses subtypes, cognitive, emotional, and behavioral components, medical issues, relapse, and the ever-important influence of the couple’s relationship on the cause and cure of this disorder. Drs. McCarthy and Metz have not only done a great service to couples experiencing this problem, but to sex therapists as well. I will definitely recommend the book to my clients and will incorporate its exercises in my treatment protocol.”

“This is an excellent, easy-to-read self-help book which is unique in that the treatment recommendations are individualized. Upon opening the book and reading the first pages, one immediately knows that two master therapists, with years of experience treating sexual problems, wrote this book. In a nutshell, this book is a gem.”
—Robert Segraves, M.D., Ph.D., author, Sexual Pharmacology, professor of Psychiatry at Case Western Reserve University, and editor, The Journal of Sex and Martial Therapy

“I can't say enough about this book. It's well written and takes you through the different types of PE problems. It also gives you ways to solve the PE problems. My wife is very supportive and I think this book has brought us closer together because we talked about things we haven't talked about before. There are great "couples" sections in this book to discuss. Through doing the exercises in the book I've gone from 2-3 minutes to 30 minutes in about 3 weeks time. Really, really AWESOME!!!” –Very Satisfied Amazon Reader

#3 Penis Power: The Ultimate Guide to Male Sexual Health

By Dudley Seth Danoff, M.D.

In this revolutionary guide to male sexual potency, urological surgeon Dr. Dudley S. Danoff talks candidly to men and their partners about the topics they are often too embarrassed to discuss with their doctors. Dr. Danoff debunks common myths about male sexual anatomy, including questions about penis size, stamina, and libido. Drawing upon case histories from his thirty-plus years of medical practice, he presents detailed information and practical solutions regarding issues that affect most men at some point in their lives, including: erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, performance anxiety, sexually transmitted diseases, prostate and testicular cancer.

In chapters like "Maximize Your Penis Power," "How to Become a Superpotent Man," and "What Women Need to Know," readers will learn how to extend sex, delay ejaculation, and boost confidence in the bedroom--banishing stress and making sex a better experience for both men and women. Penis Power is a user's guide to the male anatomy and the male mind. It's essential reading to anyone who has a penis or loves someone who does.

Leo A. Gordon, M.D., associate director of surgical education at Cedars-Sinai Medical Center describes Penis Power as “a probing and entertaining analysis of the mysteries, legends, and misconceptions surrounding the organ that has preoccupied the world ever since Eve bit the apple!”

Joe Weider, bodybuilder, fitness guru, and publisher of Men’s Fitness magazine called it, “a must read for all men who care about their physical and sexual health.”

“Particularly if you are a guy, this is a must read; it should be required reading at some point in our human development. Like it or not, the connections between our penises and our brains are an essential fact of our being; I am now convinced of that. Dr. Danoff speaks to us in a way that is easily understood, drawing on thousands of case studies in his practice. This book could save many guys (and perhaps women as well) thousands of dollars on drugs, procedures, and psychotherapy.” –Amazon Customer

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Stephanie has long believed she is a gay man trapped in a woman's body. She is a lover of good food, good sex and good grammar. A recent transplant to Chicago, she spends her free time with her super-duper-fly boyfriend and their three "kids" (2 cats, 1 dog). She has a blog she writes in every so often. She's still trying to get the whole Twitter thing down, but you can follow her @Vanderfloozie. Want to get in touch with her? Email stephanie@getlusty.com.

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3 Must Read Books on Tantra

Tantric sex. You may have read about it, but have never explored it because you figured it was too complicated. Well, the time has come to get schooled! The practice of Tantra has been around for centuries and it’s here to stay. You don’t have to be a Yoga Guru or the lead singer of a rock group that was popular in the eighties (ahem, Sting) to master Tantric sex. We’ve picked out 3 amazing books that will help you fully explore the Tantric practice and bring you and your partner to new levels of sexual fulfillment. GetLusty's Stephanie Vanderwall is back to showcase our favorite books on Tantric sex.

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#1 The Heart of Tantric Sex: A Unique Guide to Love and Sexual Fulfillment

By: Diana Richardson

After many years of exploration, Diana Richardson found that the ancient practice of Tantra, with its unique, intelligent approach to sex, had the effect of enhancing intimacy and deepening love. Here she has adapted Tantra for modern Western lovers in a practical, sympathetic way. Tantric Sex can transform your experience into a more sensual, loving and fulfilling one.

Diana Richardson, born in Zululand, South Africa, completed her education with a degree in law. She was qualified as a teacher and practitioner of therapeutic massage techniques. Living in India as a disciple of the spiritual master Osho she began a life-changing inquiry into the union of sex and meditation. After years of personal exploration she presented a unique Tantric synthesis to the Osho Tantra School in India in 1993. Since then she has been teaching Tantra in different parts of the world with a direct practical approach that inspires couple in the art of loving.

One editorial review calls The Heart of Tantric Sex, “One of the most revolutionary books on sexuality ever written.”

“Awesome book, full of material that you can put to practicable use. I bought this book expecting a little useful information, but when I read it, I found it quite easy to read, understand and follow. After reading it the first time I wanted to read it again, but used highlighters to make specific marks on what I wanted to try, put to better use and perfect on. I've applied many of these techniques with my wife and found them to be extremely useful. I've recommended this book to a select few people who not only wanted to improve their sex life, but improve the relationship with their spouse, making a stronger bond between them. I've read this 4 times and will continue to talk to others to read this book.” –Amazon review

#2 Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century

By: Barbara Carrellas

If you think sexual and spiritual bliss can't be found in today's fast-paced world, you haven't experienced Urban Tantra. With a juicy mix of erotic how-to and pleasure-centered spiritual wisdom, acclaimed sex educator Barbara Carrellas radically updates the ancient practice of Tantra for modern sexual explorers desiring to push past their edge in search of the great cosmic orgasm.

With more than one hundred easy-to-follow techniques for expanded orgasmic states and solo and partner play (as well as more adventurous practices), this in-depth guide reveals the delicious worlds of ecstasy available to all, including: The Erotic Awakening Massage, Breath and Energy Orgasms, Twenty-Minute Tantra Evolutionary Self-loving, Sex and Healing, and Tantric BDSM. No matter what your gender, sexual preference, or erotic tastes, Urban Tantra will expand your notions about pleasure and open you up to new heights of intimacy and sexual fulfillment.

In the words of Tristan Taormino: "Barbara Carrellas, whose Urban Tantric sex workshops combine Eastern sex techniques with the postmodern methods of SM practitioners, is a trailblazer."

Out Magazine raves: "Sex educator Carrellas takes Tantra out of the exclusive domain of white New Age heterosexuals and makes a compelling-and hot, and damp-argument that Tantra is for all of us. Her frank how-to offers suggestions for incorporating Tantric principles into queer couplings, with a healthy respect for putting sex back at the center of our lives."

“This book was my first approach to Modern Tantra, and it is much, much more. Interesting, erudite, entertaining and full of very useful information I cannot recommend it strongly enough. Every woman I know needs to give this to her man, despite experience and complicated classic Tantra studies I took what I personally needed from it learned volumes.” –Amazon reader

#3 Tantra for Erotic Empowerment: The Key to Enriching Your Sexual Life

By: Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson, Foreword by Tristan Taormino

Authentic and engaging, this illustrated guide is unique in its holistic approach—showing how Tantric practice not only greatly enhances your sexual pleasure but also leads to richer and more satisfying experiences in every area of your life.

Relevant for anyone, regardless of relationship status or sexual orientation, Tantra for Erotic Empowerment features original techniques, self-exploration exercises, and provocative selections from classical and contemporary Hindu Tantric literature to help you discover the source of your own erotic power and transform your life. Tantra for Erotic Empowerment was named a National Best Books 2008 Award Winner in the Health: Sexuality category, and was an award-winning finalist in the Religion: Eastern Religions category.

Betty Dodson, PhD. Author of Sex for One says: "Mark and Patricia have written a book on Tantra that deals with my favorite kind of sex—with oneself. Let's face it; many committed couples will end up practicing sex with themselves. Even a professional masturbator like me learned a few new tricks that will further my own Erotic Empowerment."

"Tantra for Erotic Empowerment is a sublime and subversive treat. Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson show us how expanded awareness and respect for pleasure can free us from the restraints of religious, social, and political conformity. A totally liberating book!" 
Barbara Carrellas, author of Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century

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Stephanie has long believed she is a gay man trapped in a woman's body. She is a lover of good food, good sex and good grammar. A recent transplant to Chicago, she spends her free time with her super-duper-fly boyfriend and their three "kids" (2 cats, 1 dog). She has a blog she writes in every so often. She's still trying to get the whole Twitter thing down, but you can follow her @Vanderfloozie. Want to get in touch with her? Email stephanie@getlusty.com.

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Erotic Story: My Doctor Fantasy (NSFW)

Who doesn't love some erotic fantasy for foreplay? We've heard from Dr. Blockman about her steamy fantasies before. We're excited to have a continued installment. It seems that a particular erotica novel has had quite an influence for many of our GetLusty community. 50 Shades of Grey has stimulated some stories of their own. Dr. Limor Blockman shares another 50 Shades-inspired fantasy for your reading pleasure.

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My doctor fantasy 

I have always had these intense fantasies about my OBGYN. He seemed strong, knowledgeable and very aware of every aspect of the female anatomy, which in itself intrigued and titillated me immensely.

Every time I would make an appointment, I would get a little wet and excited, knowing that this is going to take place soon, again. I arrive at his clinic 15 minutes early, his kind assistant takes my insurance card and asks me to wait.

Anticipation can be a very strong aphrodisiac, and I immerse in it completely. This time he came out, escorting his last patient. While he firmly shakes her hand, he glances over at me, ready and flushed in his waiting room. He comes toward me, and walks me over to the room, his hand resting on my back.

“How have you been Delilah? Great to see you. This is a routine checkup, I’m guessing?”

I was so excited that I could hardly speak, so I just nod in approval. The thought of his firm, sensually invasive hands inside my wet hole get me lightheaded and blurry eyed.

“I’ll leave you to get undressed and get Mary to join us, OK dear?” Oh fuck, I didn’t count on Mary being here, but he never examines me or any other patient without her presence, so I guess I’ll deal with it.

Mary comes in the room first, opens the screen separating me from his sitting area and offers to help me with my robe. “You look so pretty today De, did you change your hair or something?” Mary looked awfully cheerful and happy, I almost felt invaded by her.

“I got a new hair color, and cut it a bit. Glad you like it honey”.

“Now lie back beautiful, the Doc will be with you in a minute, OK? Try to relax!” She straightens my robe and slides her hand over my pussy, in a casual way… “Oh god, could this be happening? Is she aware of my intense lust for the sexy Doctor and “wants in” on it?

I could feel myself getting wetter and more excited, when his voice stops my colorful imagination mid-way. “Ready or not, here I come!"

He opens the screen and stands in front of me, carefully placing my legs in the chair, pulling my waist down further. “Are you comfortable dear? You need to be, I’m just here to make you feel better...”

He lifts my robe, my extremely open, throbbing wet hole, is exposed to him. “Can I take a closer look, you seem to be a little inflamed there… Does that hurt?” he asks as he slowly closes his index finger and thumb on my clit. I burst into a million pieces “This is it, it’s really happening, I’m going to finally get to feel his most craved cock inside me,” I’m thinking, hoping my thoughts are not verbalized involuntarily.

I gasp and spread my legs even wider, inviting him in with a twist of a motion. He lowers his chair in front of my open hole, pulls in, and buries his face in my wetness. His luscious lips, his generous tongue, his long fingers, drive me insane, and I’m about to explode in agonizing pleasure. Mary peeks in. I’m so hot and excited, I don’t even pay attention.

“Allow me to take over, would you Doctor?” She rubs his shoulders and takes his place in front of me, licking my clit with the enthusiasm of a child in a candy store. The Doctor moves closer, kisses me passionately and opens his pants slowly, exposing a beautiful huge cock.

“Suck it hard, Delilah. I've been fantasizing about you and that sexy mouth ever since your first visit.” I opened my mouth wide, closing my hands on his shaft, sucking his pre-ejaculatory juices and caressing his scrotum. He sighs and gasps with excitement, growing in my hands and mouth, shoving his head back into my throat. My gag reflex kicks in, but I fight it and keep going, swallowing his huge cock, loving every minute of it.

He caresses my breasts and pushes Mary’s head down my pussy, rubbing my clit with his fingers and ordering Mary to attend my ass.

“Oh, what a pretty asshole you have De, let me lick it ready for the Doctor. We want to get you all lubricated for this enormous gift."

I’m going into a pre-orgasmic state as she pulls out of my pussy and penetrates my ass with her fingers. I’m heated and excited, but managing to curb my orgasm, as long as my clit is left unattended for the moment. Her fingers open me up, so softly and carefully, I can tell I’m not the first “lucky winner” of this prize. Who knows how many dedicated patients are getting gang-banged by these two.

The Doc slowly pulls his firm erection out of my eager mouth. I stare at him, mesmerized and excited like never before.

“And now, get ready for the real show my darling De, I promise to be gentle…” He pulls my ass further down the chair, so that I’m hanging in the air, with my legs still in the holders, spread wide to his comfort. Mary moves over, kisses me lusciously and starts caressing my engorged nipples, my wet quivering hole and my swollen clit. He slowly penetrates my tight asshole, I ache in pleasurable pain, releasing a soft moan that gets him even more excited.

“You like it, sexy De? You like my huge cock in your petite asshole? Oh god I know I do.”

He increases his motion, pushing his erection deeper and deeper into my ass. Mary works on my clit, pushing her fingers into my pussy, matching the Doctor’s intense motion. I’m gasping and panting, spreading my legs even further. A strong sensation takes me over. I’m about to squirt intensely. “I’m cumming. Oh god Doc, I’m cumming,” I whisper.

“Yes De, cum for me darling. Take me all in and cum. I’m just about to cum in your ass!” I squirt a shower of warmth, wetting Mary’s hands and upper body.

“Oh you’re so good. You’re just as responsive as I imagined, beautiful,” she murmurs.

The Doc releases a moan and a splash of cum goes through me like a jet. He pulls out and rushes over to my mouth. I swallow his warm cock covered in my taste, as Mary licks my ass and pussy to finish.

Dr. Limor Blockman is a world-renowned clinical sex counselor, practicing as a relationship and family counselor, a sex educator, advice columnist, speaker and author.

She holds a PhD in Human Sexuality, an MA in public health and community medicine, and a BA in psychology and behavioral sciences. She has published three bestselling books (published in Hebrew) and reaches people worldwide through print, TV, radio, Internet and video. Find out more about Limor through her website, Facebook or follow her on Twitter @DoctorLimor.

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3 Must Read Books on Anal

We have written a lot about anal sex. From the ultimate guide to anal sex to five must have anal sex toys, we have covered it. However, if you want to learn as much as you possibly can about anal sex, you might want to check out the books below! We have written on the best books for marriage, books of giving better blowjobs, and cunnilingus, and now we think it is time to give our bums some love too. Without further adieu, here is our pick of the three best books on anal sex!

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#1 The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women (2nd edition)
By: Tristan Taormino 

The second edition of Tristan's amazing book, has been revised and updated throughout. Tristan included all new chapters specifically for beginners and for women giving anal pleasure to men. This is a comprehensive and creative book on anal sex. Tristan Taormino offer the kind of informed reassurance that can encourage even an absolute beginner to explore this nerve-rich part of the body, either alone or with a partner of any gender. Anal sex enthusiasts may need no encouragement, but will welcome Taormino's sense of adventure and her detailed discussions of toys, fantasy play and positions.

Beginning by dispelling common myths about anal eroticism, Taormino goes on to illustrate anatomy, give tips on building trust and communicating desires, and provide reliable, easy-to-understand information on safety, preparation, hygiene, and much more. This new edition has been substantially expanded and revised to include new information on masturbation, anal health, BDSM and anal sex, and many other topics. In a new feature, Taormino answers actual reader questions.

Salon.com says it is "The bible of female anal sex!" and Time Out New York says Tristan "is the go-to girl on anal sex."

#2 Tickle My Tush: Mild to Wild Analplay Adventures for Everybooty
By: Dr. Sadie Allison

TIckle My Tush is a smart guide for men and women to the true pleasures of the under-explored seat of love. With Dr. Sadie's trademark tongue-in-cheek narrative, together with over 60 tasteful illustrations, this guide book clearly shows how to enjoy these newfound thrills-comfortably, safely, and pleasurably.

This book goes from "mild to wild" so curious couples can find their personal approach and comfort levels at their own pace. Be as mild as you want with sensual butt massages or anal finger play, or read about butt toys, innercourse and "pegging" to experience wild orgasmic sensations. Feel confident with the tips and techniques that dispel myths and skyrocket pleasure. This is the most approachable how-to analplay guide.

"If I'm gonna take advice from someone about my tush, it's gonna be Dr. Sadie. Her style and humor are pleasant and informative and she's not afraid to leave out any embarrassing or important details. Remember, that's where Cosmo gets its advice from!" -Eleni Solomou, Columnist, Cosmopolitan Magazine

#3 Anal Pleasure and Health: A Guide for Men, Women, and Couples

By: Dr. Jack Morin, Ph.D.

 
For many years the focus of fear and disgust, the anus is actually one of the human body's most wondrous creations- elegant, efficient, and richly supplied with pleasure nerves. However, stress and ignorance can turn the anus and its functions from a source of delight into a painful disability. What's needed is an owner's manual- and here it is!

Join therapist and sexologist, Jack Morin, Ph.D., on this tour of the anus, complete with information and exercises to open the door to new sources of comfort and gratification. You'll unlearn habits that can cause everything from hemorrhoids to chronic pelvis pain- and, if you choose learn new ways of achieving solo and partnered pleasures through this humblest of portals.

"Anal Pleasure and Health is the original guide to anal eroticism and still the greatest." -Michael Castleman, author, Great Sex

Lora is on our editorial team and is our resident health nut! When she isn't writing or editing, you can find her on her yoga mat, exploring Chicago via bicycle, or hanging out with her wonderful boyfriend in their north side apartment. She has a dangerous habit of spending too much money on soy lattes and yoga clothes. Find her on Twitter @HoneyNutLo or email her at Lora@GetLusty.com if you have any questions!

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3 Must See Erotic Books

Besides Naked Girls Reading (check out this lusty lady reader above), there are few other things that are as sexy as reading erotic novels, stories and books. Our adorkable writer, Nadine Thornhill is all about picture books these days. But not just any coffee table books, erotic ones! Here is a guest post by Nadine, also cross-posted to her lovely her blog, Adorkable Undies!

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My friends at GetLusty wanted to know about some of my favorite sexy books. The answer to that question is more challenging than it seems. When it comes to choosing smutty reads, my top picks change according to my mood, my libido and what’s going on in my life at the time.

Lately I’ve been spending most of my days studying, scriptwriting and blogging. As much I enjoy the work (except maybe the studying), I find I need a bit of a break from words once downtime rolls around. That’s probably why I’ve been drawn to some of the more graphic volumes on my bookshelf these days. Books full of sexy pictures boost my mojo, while giving my eyeballs a much needed break from constant left to right scanning.

These three books all contain wonderful bits of text, but it’s the pretty, pretty pictures that have put these titles at the top of my list:

Ars Erotica: An Arousing History Of Erotic Art
by Edward Lucie-Smith

I acquired this book quite by accident when I was producing a play for The Ottawa Fringe Festival. The story took place in a fictional sex shop and a cast mate brought it in to help dress our set. After the run was over, I inherited the book and it’s lived on my bookshelf ever since.

Ars Erotica documents various depictions of human sexuality throughout time and across cultures. Each chapter focuses on a different theme; ranging from sex and spirituality, to outdoor sex and erotic pain.

 It’s a full color volume, brimming with spectacular works of art. History buffs will certainly enjoy reading about the historical significance of erotica through the ages. As for me, I’m all about oogling page after page of sculpture, paintings and photographs!

Do It Yourself
by Uwe Ommer

Do It Yourself is a big, beautiful coffee table book full of big, beautiful photographs. Ommer is a big deal photographer in Europe having had exhibits in some of France’s best known galleries.

According to the preface, he and his partner came home one night to find their child asleep and the babysitter snapping Polarids of herself in the bathroom mirror, wearing nothing but Ommer’s high heels.

What you or I might call a supremely awkward moment, Ommer saw as inspiration. He equiped a group of inexperienced photographers with a camera, a set of basic instructions and set them loose to do their own erotic self portraits.

The results range from sultry to playful to downright goofy. It’s a hella fun book to flip through and one that turns me on every time I look at it. The last third of the book is a kind of postcard diary/photo essay of the inspirational babysitter. Based on her writing, the woman strikes me as kind of a wackadoo, but in a fun way that might involve wearing wigs and eating cupcakes while watching America’s Next Top Model nude.

Small Favors: A Girly Porno Comic
by Colleen Coover

Small Favours is actually several girly porno comics – a series of eight graphic novels – and they are absolutely delightful!

The protagonist Annie has a near insatiable sex drive. She just can’t stop masturbating! Her conscience appears in the form of an uptight queen to reprimand her.

Since Annie can’t be trusted to keep her hands out of her pants, she’s saddled with a six-inch, blonde-haired guardian named Nibbl. There’s just one small problem…Nibbl is even more of a horn-dog than Annie! Annie and Nibbl quickly fall in lust, in love and spend the rest of the series having the dirty, silly, wonderful sex in almost every panel.

I adore this series. It’s sex-positive, optimistic and cute as hell. For reals, I can’t think of any other book that makes me want to go “Awwww,” and touch myself at the same time.

How about you? Do you have any erotic favorites on your bookshelf? Feel free to share!

Nadine is a sexual health educator, playwright, poet, burlesque performer, partner and parent living in Ottawa, Ontario. The plays and poetry she creates tend toward subjects such as clitorises, vibrators and non-monogamy. 

She enjoys candy, fashion and dreck television. She does not care for pants. Find her on Twitter @NadineThornhill. She also blogs on Adorkable Undies. Find her blog on Facebook and Pinterest. 

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3 Books on Giving the Best Cunnilingus

Today, the GetLusty HQ is winding down Orgasm October, and I'm here to provide you with some fantastic resources that will keep the spirit of the month flowing for long after. I have three recommendations of great books about female cunnilingus for your partner or for yourself. If knowledge is power, think of these three books are cunnilingus power plants! Because our Cunnilingus 101 article was so well received, GetLusty's Brendan White is here to give you three wonderful resources on cunnilingus for your best oral sex ever!

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#1 She Comes First: the Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

William Morrow Paperbacks, 2010
Author: Ian Kerner

This book dispels the misconception that genital penetration is the primary way to bring a woman to climax. Kerner is a clinical sexology doctorate holder and his wit and candor is as entertaining as it is informative.

We at GetLusty love this particular book because Kerner focuses on several of the 5 Pillars we hold so dear, touching on health and communication in addition to sexual technique. The book's format is concise, logical and easy to chew. It's useful for any level of experience, be you a cunnilingus veteran or newbie; so don't be shy, and pick up this book today! Giving great pleasure feels good and fosters connection and appreciation between you and your lucky partner.


#2 Clit-ology: Master Every Move from A to G-spot to Give Her Ultimate Pleasure

Quiver, 2011
Authors: Jordan LaRousse, Samantha Sade

Clitology is a male-oriented book with a target audience of heterosexual men. Be assured, this is not a textbook! It's filled with large images and informative bits alike. It also includes information about how your partner's genitals will change with pregnancy and menopause.

This book leaves the shores of cunnilingus to venture into the sea of the G-spot and fingering and more. Written by founders of the top erotica site Oysters & Chocolate Jordan LaRousse and Samantha Sade, "Clit-ology" delivers helpful information and pictures in a rhetorically straightforward and friendly fashion. Check it out, it'll be work your time!

#3 The Clitoral Truth: The Secret World at Your Fingertips

Seven Stories Press, 2000
Author: Rebecca Chalker

Rebecca Chalker, a professor of Women's and Gender Studies at Pace University in New York City, presents us with a well known book on female sexuality, The Clitoral Truth. This book explores more than anatomy and sexual technique, diving into the importance of self-exploration and the history of the clitoris.
 
What this book lacks in pure utility, it makes up with its historiographical meandering of sex and the clitoris - a lacking element in the typical "become a cunnilingus commander in 3 easy steps" books that seem to saturate the market.
While it may not penetrate as deeply in terms of sexual technique, The Clitoral Truth is a wonderful reference for a more well-rounded understanding of the clitoris throughout history, how it works, and your relationship to it! Slightly stockier than the last book — ringing in at 256 pages — this book is a determined weekend project. When you finish, you'll likely know the most about the clitoris in your immediate and extended group of friends and, let's be honest, that fact alone should make The Clitoral Truth rise on your bucket list of books to read.

I'm on the younger side of the hill, but my sexual education growing up was an antiquated and very Roman Catholic one. This meant I had a lot of independent exploring and learning (and downright powerful embarrassment) to get out of the way when it came to sex. Reading about sex, talking about sex, learning about sex and sex in general seems to be a cultural taboo in our country, for a variety of reasons. Regardless, sex is a subject too many people know too little about.  I encourage you to be part of the solution, not part of the problem.  Pick up a book about sex today!

This article is by GetLusty's Brendan White. Brendan is a Boston University graduate with a passion for all things historical and also all things sex. A recent Boston transplant to Chicago, Brendan has a musical mind and at one point toured the country. When he's not thinking about conquering feudal Japan chances are he's playing loud rock n roll in some laboratory with other like-minded individuals. When he's not thinking about GetLusty he's spending time with his exceptionally lovely girlfriend.

What to get in touch with him? E-mail Brendan at brendan@getlusty.com.

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