Another Reason to Have Great Sex: It Makes You Live Longer

We all know that a great sex life is important and good for our health, but did you know it could help you live longer? Here at GetLusty, we're all about finding solutions to life's biggest challenge: having an amazing sexual relationship. GetLusty staff writer, Eileen Prouffe, offers 3 lusty ways to extend your life-span.

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Maybe your sex is lackluster. Maybe you need a little inspiration for better sex. What better inspiration than having a longer and more fulfilling life? Whether you could barely feel anything or they thought you were a mechanical bull, bad sex sucks and it's very unfulfilling. Having great orgasms can actually help lengthen your life. By having bad sex you are not letting this process occur in your body and mind. 

Here's three reasons why sex can lengthen your life:

#1 Orgasms can reduce cancer risk   

According to a study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association,  men who ejaculate more frequently in their 20s are less likely to get prostate cancer when they're older. So make sure you are getting the sexual pleasure that you need in your relationships. 

#2 Reduces stress and anxiety

Not surprisingly, according to Princeton University research, sexual experiences reduce stress and anxiety. Stress can be a bummer for any relationship, so talk to your partner about new ways of having better sex and stop those inhibitions from getting in the way of your longevity.

#3 Increases endorphins

It has been suggested in the scientific community that a regular release of endorphins might increase longevity. Having regular sex that gets your heart pumping and that makes you feel good can release these endorphins.  If you read through the studies, you'll see that it isn't just the act of sex that benefits your physiology. The point is to get all those chemicals flowing. If your partner is skimping out on you and your body, then it's time to have a talk. If they don't know how to improve, offer to help. 

Remember, your partner doesn't know what you are experiencing sexually if you don't tell him or her. I'm not saying that sex is everything in a relationship, but it is a huge part of it. Just like money is not everything either, but let's face it, we all need it. There are many aspects to a relationship, and sexual harmony is one of the most important for a lasting relationship. Check out our collection of articles on improving sex with your partner.

Many studies show that people who have relationships live longer than people who are single, so keep that love flowing and make sure you take the time and effort to nurture your partner. Some people are too embarrassed to speak up and tell their partner that they are unsatisfied and they just deal with it. This is no way to go through life. You deserve to be touched and pleased the way that you want to be, so do yourself a favor and speak up. Also, it doesn't hurt to ask your partner the truth about whether or not you are really satisfying them. 

No matter what the case or the excuse, don't let yourself get stuck in a bad sex rut. If it happens, start communicating and exploring. With these health benefits, orgasms are a healthy and natural process that not only we want to happen, but that need to happen.

No one wants to shorten their lives, so if there are ways that you can help prolong your life then do it! That's right don't just sit there. Stop reading and go have some lusty sex.

Eileen Prouffe is a GetLusty staff writer with over ten years as a working mom trying to keep her love alive. If she's not having fun with her three kids, she's staring into the eyes of her loving husband. She looks forward to sharing her ideas, tips and knowledge with everyone to help improve relationships and put an end to dull sex lives. Get in touch with Eileen at eileen@getlusty.com.

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Ladies! Is Sex Painful? Find Out Why

Sometimes, we women feel like we should have sex. Maybe it's been a while or maybe you have a sex break scheduled. You don't want to disappoint your love. Now somewhere in or around your vaginal opening or walls hurts, maybe you nicked your inner lips while shaving, waxing, or prepping. We've all been there, but how do you describe this to a lover? How important is to have sex that's pleasurable for the both of you? What do you when sex is painful? Dr. Jenn, a leading sex educator and therapist from sunny, warm San Diego reports.

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Dear Dr. Jenn,

Is it normal to have pain when I have sex with my boyfriend? It’s not all the time, but about half the time I have to stop him once he’s inside because it hurts too much. What should we do?

Thank you!
Sex is a Pain

Dear Sex is a Pain,

I’m so sorry to hear you’re experiencing pain! But very happy that you brought it up, since you are not alone. A 2010 Indiana University study found that one third of women reported genital pain during their last sexual encounter. First, a few clarifying questions: Where is the pain located? Is it inside or outside your vagina? What does the pain feel like, for example, is it burning or sore? Has this happened with past partners? Can you pinpoint any differences between the times you have pain and the times you do not?

If the pain is deep inside and only occasional, it might be connected to changes in your menstrual cycle, which can shift your cervix and uterus. I suggest that you alter sexual positions when there’s pain, to find one that doesn’t allow for deep penetration.

On the other hand, if the pain is right around the entrance to your vagina, there are likely other factors coming into play, such as lubrication and time. Since the pain is not always present, I’m guessing that the difference could be that you haven’t had enough time to get all juicy and lubricated.

All bodies are different, and some people need more foreplay prior to intercourse to allow their genitals to engorge with blood and for the body to kick in with natural vaginal lubrication. More finger and tongue action around the vulva and vaginal opening should better prepare you for penetration.

Also, adding a personal lubricant can help reduce unwanted friction (I recommend brands like Sliquid, Hathor Aphrodisia, or Pink). If you believe you have a physical problem that is not addressed here or is more serious (e.g., vulvodynia), we are lucky in San Diego to have the Sexual Medicine Clinic at Alvarado Hospital. Visit them to determine the source of your pain.


It’s very important that you openly discuss this with your boyfriend. You want to make sure both of you are doing what you can to stop the pain. Sometimes women grin and bear it, but in the long run this creates a negative feedback loop around sex. Sex should be fun and pleasurable for both partners and I hope this helps you achieve that. I wish you happy and healthy sex!

Passionately,
Dr. Jenn

This article was cross posted with permission from Dr. Jenn's Blog. *This article was originally posted to the Sex & Love Blog Series at Pacific San Diego Magazine.

Jennifer Gunsaullus, PhD, is a sociologist, sexuality speaker, and sex therapist, with a passion for challenging people to sexually think outside the box.

Dr. Jenn is a public speaker on topics including healthy relationships, love, gender, mindfulness, erotic play, and happiness. She counsels individuals and couples, in person and over Skype, to assist in creating and maintaining open communication and fulfilling intimacy. Dr. Jenn is a contributing writer for Pacific San Diego Magazine and is a sex and relationship expert on Fox 5 news and San Diego Living. Follow her on Twitter @DrJennsDen and Facebook.

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