Another Reason to Have Great Sex: It Makes You Live Longer

We all know that a great sex life is important and good for our health, but did you know it could help you live longer? Here at GetLusty, we're all about finding solutions to life's biggest challenge: having an amazing sexual relationship. GetLusty staff writer, Eileen Prouffe, offers 3 lusty ways to extend your life-span.

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Maybe your sex is lackluster. Maybe you need a little inspiration for better sex. What better inspiration than having a longer and more fulfilling life? Whether you could barely feel anything or they thought you were a mechanical bull, bad sex sucks and it's very unfulfilling. Having great orgasms can actually help lengthen your life. By having bad sex you are not letting this process occur in your body and mind. 

Here's three reasons why sex can lengthen your life:

#1 Orgasms can reduce cancer risk   

According to a study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association,  men who ejaculate more frequently in their 20s are less likely to get prostate cancer when they're older. So make sure you are getting the sexual pleasure that you need in your relationships. 

#2 Reduces stress and anxiety

Not surprisingly, according to Princeton University research, sexual experiences reduce stress and anxiety. Stress can be a bummer for any relationship, so talk to your partner about new ways of having better sex and stop those inhibitions from getting in the way of your longevity.

#3 Increases endorphins

It has been suggested in the scientific community that a regular release of endorphins might increase longevity. Having regular sex that gets your heart pumping and that makes you feel good can release these endorphins.  If you read through the studies, you'll see that it isn't just the act of sex that benefits your physiology. The point is to get all those chemicals flowing. If your partner is skimping out on you and your body, then it's time to have a talk. If they don't know how to improve, offer to help. 

Remember, your partner doesn't know what you are experiencing sexually if you don't tell him or her. I'm not saying that sex is everything in a relationship, but it is a huge part of it. Just like money is not everything either, but let's face it, we all need it. There are many aspects to a relationship, and sexual harmony is one of the most important for a lasting relationship. Check out our collection of articles on improving sex with your partner.

Many studies show that people who have relationships live longer than people who are single, so keep that love flowing and make sure you take the time and effort to nurture your partner. Some people are too embarrassed to speak up and tell their partner that they are unsatisfied and they just deal with it. This is no way to go through life. You deserve to be touched and pleased the way that you want to be, so do yourself a favor and speak up. Also, it doesn't hurt to ask your partner the truth about whether or not you are really satisfying them. 

No matter what the case or the excuse, don't let yourself get stuck in a bad sex rut. If it happens, start communicating and exploring. With these health benefits, orgasms are a healthy and natural process that not only we want to happen, but that need to happen.

No one wants to shorten their lives, so if there are ways that you can help prolong your life then do it! That's right don't just sit there. Stop reading and go have some lusty sex.

Eileen Prouffe is a GetLusty staff writer with over ten years as a working mom trying to keep her love alive. If she's not having fun with her three kids, she's staring into the eyes of her loving husband. She looks forward to sharing her ideas, tips and knowledge with everyone to help improve relationships and put an end to dull sex lives. Get in touch with Eileen at eileen@getlusty.com.

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Ladies! 5 Ways to Orgasm More Intensely

We've written lots of articles on orgasms. We even dedicated October to Orgasms. about how to give intense orgasms. So what can be better than orgasming? Making those orgasms over the top. If you are already having great orgasms, here are a few steps you can take to make them even better. GetLusty staff writer, Milan Weasley reports.

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This article is very important for all the ladies out there. Have you ever been in a place where your orgasms aren't amazing? Try these ideas on for size! Without ado, 5 ways to orgasm more intensely.

#1 Kegels

Work out your kegel muscles. The stronger these muscles are, the more sensitive you will be vaginally, during intercourse. They increase circulation in your genital area. Your kegel muscles or pubococcygeus muscles (PC) include your clitoris, G-spot, and even some areas of your thighs. You can locate these muscles by squeezing to stop the flow of urination.

Empty your bladder and start to squeeze and hold these muscles. Squeezing in short pulses and longer intervals will strengthen the muscles. Remember don't preform these exercises while urinating. Repeatedly stoping the flow can cause reflux, and send urine back up your urethra. I recommend doing these exercises every time you finish using the bathroom. With discipline you can strengthen these muscles so much you may be able to orgasm by flexing them.

#2 Breathe

We love Kegels so much, we wrote an entire article on how to do Kegels, and also Kegel toys. Breathing brings more oxygen into your bloodstream. Consciously, controlling your breathing will immediately enhance your sexual experiences. Controlling your breathing soothes tension and brings more life and energy to your cells.

Panting promotes arousal and sexual excitability. Pant from your stomach, not your throat. Sometimes, this just happens involuntarily -- but make it a point to focus on your breathe. Breathing in through your mouth and out through your nose slows the build of erotic sensation. Curl your tongue or press it against the roof of your mouth. Breathe in and hold your breath. Exhale through your nose. It's also a cooling breath.

#3 Anticipate

Orgasms aren't all about the finish line. The journey is just as important. The more anticipation that is built up on the road to orgasm, the bigger the release. It slows and stretches things out. Either way you work this, both parties will have the chance to build anticipation. Tension orgasms are shorter and less intense. It involves holding your breath and squeezing/tensing your muscles. When you relax and make the road to orgasm last longer, the end will be a more intense, bigger, and longer release.

This anticipation doesn't begin and end in the bedroom. Send each other erotic pictures. Describe what you want in text messages. Set up a surprise homemade dinner or bubble bath to soak in. You can build anticipation during sex. Get to the brink of orgasm and switch positions. The tension will build up and it has to be released. That orgasmic release will get bigger the more you delay it.

#4 Explore

There are areas on a woman's body that are also sensitive before and during sex. In the lips, tongue, neck, and shoulders there are millions of nerve endings. They are very sensitive to touching and kissing. There are erogenous zones all over a woman's body. Trying new positions will up the pleasure. And even new locations. Having sex in 'dangerous' places or in thrill-seeking ways will release dopamine-which is also released during orgasm. So adding more increases the intensity. Even in a different room in your living space!

Let your partner whisper in your ears. The ears are a link straight to one of the body's most sensitive areas during stimulation, the brain. Gently blowing on the ears will send shivers down your spine. The neck is just as sensitive. Light kisses and bites will be just as exciting.

Your scalp is sensitive as well. Each strand of hair is attached to it by a nerve ending. Meaning there are thousands of opportunities to deliver more stimulation.

And during orgasm, let your partner gently pull your hair. Pulling your hair surprisingly releases endorphins, which will increase your orgasm.

#5 Relax

Your mind is the first thing to relax. Don't focus on delivering mind blowing orgasms. The pressure can be overwhelming. Especially if you aren't successful. Performance anxiety can exist in the bedroom and can lead to all types of problems. Relaxation is the solution to stress. The focus should be on your connection with your partner. Focus on the passion of your love and your attraction. Relaxation will make both of your bodies better able to orgasm.

You can have all the tricks in the world, but if your thoughts are elsewhere and you aren't relaxed, you won't be able to orgasm. Communication during sex can help with relaxing also. If you don't trust your partner, or vice versa, you won't be completely open. Keep the lines of communication open. Giving your body to your partner, includes giving your mind and trust just as much. Focus on the moment and not on other activities. We even have tips on staying in the moment sexually!


This is another wonderful post by GetLusty staff writer and lover of amazing orgasms, Milan Weasley. She's pretty amazing. In fact, Milan is one of GetLusty for Couples' first lesbian writers. (Ah! Dykes and dildos!) She spends her days procrastinating grad school and her nights procrastinating everything else. She enjoys writing, gogo dancing, sewing, pole dancing, and defending the Oxford comma.

Questions, comments or article ideas? Get in touch with Milan at milan@getlusty.com or on her Tumblr.

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Black Friday: 4 Reasons to Buy Sex Toys Instead

Though it's Thanksgiving, I'm sure you're already thinking about Black Friday. It's the time of year where we Americans get out there and shop until we drop. It's rather crazy across the country; where shoppers have been known to trample across stores. But sex toy shops--online and off--aren't known for being packed-to-the-brim with fellow shoppers. Not only that, but do you really need (want) a newer television? Or would you like to try a different orgasm this Christmas? At GetLusty, we'd say try the new orgasm. For this and more, check out GetLusty's Traci Saiz on several more reasons to go sex toy shopping this Black Friday. In Chicago? Get your free vibrator this Black Friday.

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Without ado, the reasons why you should buy sex toys instead (or at least in addition) this Black Friday.

#1 Variety! Let’s mix it up!

Introducing toys into the bedroom can be fun, sexy, and exciting! Toys can enhance your arousal and your performance. Using a vibrator in just the right spot will get any woman ready to go. The same goes for men, grab a vibrator and use it on him for some effortlessly hot foreplay. Go to your nearest sex shop and see just how fun it can be. Toys are a great way to mix it up and add some variety. Talk about foreplay; tease her, tease him, get things hot and steamy with a little extra help. Buy a toy or two and stay in all weekend. Explore something new, surprise your partner, and seize the moment. So grab a toy and get to it!

The seasons are changing so why not get ready for the long cold winter by heating things up at home. Sex toys are great to add a little something extra. Not feeling it or too tired? Grab your toy, instant turn on for you both. Engage or watch! Sex toys are great for those times when one partner “wants to” and the other partner just isn’t in the mood. It allows the partner who feels like sexual pleasure the option of having it while adding the aid of a sex toy to the mix.

#2 Curious? So are we!

You’ve wanted to try something new but are hesitant and not sure where to start. Well now is your chance. Grab that special someone and hit the nearest sex shop! There are tons of different toys to choose from; cock rings, dildos, nipple clamps, whips, you name it, and they’ve got it. Anything you can think of to just try out, why not? You never know just how much fun you could have. Toys are much more than just the bachelor/bachelorette novelty gift. Vibrators and dildos don’t have to be big and scary, many are small and discreet.

Cock rings are fun for both parties! Just have your man slip one on and you both can enjoy the extra pleasure. A strap-on can open a new door for both of you---new sensations as well as a new role to play. Not sure how? Check out our 10 steps to awesome pegging. Let’s not forget one of my favorites—vibrating panties! Sure, they’re not your “typical” toy, but they are definitely a lot of fun! Feeling frisky and know you are going to be out on the town? Slip into these sexy buzz operated beauties and hand the remote over to your partner. They get to control how much and when you get that little extra buzz going. Talk about foreplay! This is an instant turn on for both of you and brings out your exhibitionist side. You will both enjoy the secret kink while going about your day or night.

Ladies, feel free to ask for a vibrator in that toy shop (do you have a Hitachi yet!?). When you get a yearning for some hanky panky give it a try. Be sure to text your partner so they can also enjoy your secret pleasure. The thought of using your little friend will get them riled up and you will both be ready for some action when you get home. Better yet, ask if your partner has a certain curiosity they would like to explore. There are anal kits and lubes, for example, that will help ease you and your partner into trying something a little more adventurous than the simple missionary position. (But if you want to make missionary mind blowing, you can always do that, too!)

#3 You really benefit

Bringing toys into the bedroom (or wherever you choose to get it on) will also enhance your health and communication while you’re at it. Yes, sex and those lovely toys are great for your body. Sex toys promote good health through all those amazing orgasms you will have.

Orgasms release stress and tension, and those endorphins are sure to put you in the best of moods. Having orgasms are healthy and fun! Have fun, get kinky and adventurous. Go ahead! Let those endorphins do the rest.

#4 Talk more about what you want

When was the last time you talked about what you really wanted in bed? Buying sex toys together can be a wonderful experience. It's not just for 'dirty' couples and won't replace your partner.

Shopping for a toy together allows you to be more open and start a conversation about what turns you both on. What better way to have sex than to do it no-holds bar! Communicate what you your interests are. Pick up a toy you’ve wanted to try, or one that just seems appealing. Toys can be the gateway to fulfilling all of each other’s fantasies!

We hope whatever you do that you'll have a fabulous time this Thanksgiving. Remember, we have plenty of ideas on making this Thanksgiving less stressful and more loving. And even cute ideas on how to make Thanksgiving a little sexier!

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Traci Saiz is a Southern California native but a Chicago girl at heart. She has a B.A. in Marketing and mentors on the side. She is a sports fanatic, a fun-seeking traveler, and passionate in nature especially when it comes to sex. She believes sex is a key element in a relationship and it doesn’t have to be “movie” sex but it has to be fun! She is not afraid to bare her dirty secrets (actually she doesn’t seem to have any). This gal is definitely not shy and loves to discuss relationships and sex with anyone and everyone! Follow Traci on twitter @TraciAlaina or find her on Pinterest.

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