3 Steps to Giving an Amazing Prostate Orgasm (NSFW)

Men, we have already given you advice on how to have multiple orgasms. We've worked through penis anatomy, and reviewed by male orgasm is different from ejaculation. We even talked with prostate pleasure expert Charlie Glickman on prostate play. But let's talk more specifically about the prostate orgasm specifically. How does one have this amazing orgasm? How do we give it? The prostate is the doorway to your most intense and lengthy orgasms. Also read up on Prostate Milking 101 if you want to jump right into it. Here, Tia Champagne is bringing you some much needed information on the very often forgotten prostate and how you can give your partner the ultimate prostate orgasm!

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As you can see at GetLusty, there are tons of articles and medical research involved with understanding the vagina and female orgasm. But if you ever do a little research on the prostate, one of the main sexual organs of male mammals, there is not too much to be found. So, this article is written to shed some light on what it is, what it can do, and how you can make it do it.

Get acquainted with anatomy


A healthy prostate is about the size of a walnut and is smacked between the bladder and the penis. The prostate produces fluid that nourishes and protects sperm as it allows it to be squeezed through the urethra during ejaculation. Basically, the prostate holds a large role in how male ejaculation occurs and what we see as a result.

However, many people are unaware that the prostate is a huge part in male sexual arousal. Some people even call it the male G-spot. Is it? Can it be for you? Of course. Giving sexual arousal to the prostate is commonly called “milking” the prostate because it releases a creamy, white fluid. Even though it probably is easier to milk a cow than a prostate, few are sure of how to do it and where to start.

Here are three suggestions to give him an amazing prostate orgasm:

#1 Get comfortable, use lubricant, and apply pressure! 

Tell your man to lay on his back—they tend to find it enjoyable and comfortable. When experimenting with any anal action, it is important to be well-lubricated so fingers, vibrators, or tongues, (oh my!) could be inserted with ease. If you are using your hand, make sure your fingers are pointing towards the testicles. Hopefully, you’ll get some positive feedback from your partner and when figuring out which spot is most sensitive, apply pressure as you move your fingers downward. This, my friends, is milking the prostate.

#2 Stroke his penis

When approaching orgasm, take one hand and start stroking the penis. Many times, this allows for a man to not just have a quick cum, but instead, have a more steady flow of semen excrete while orgasming. These orgasms tend to be a little longer, a lot more intense, and totally worth a try.

#3 Play with his perineum

For those of you who aren’t ready to insert your own fingers into your rectum or have someone insert them in yours, you could always try feeling the perineum, which is the area underneath the testicles and in between the anus and testicles. This place is a man’s best-kept secret. And ladies and gents, he wants you to find it. It’s there. For some men, it helps increase orgasm when stimulated. How? Rub against it while stroking or blowing his penis and if he groans, you’ll know what I’m talking about.

So for those of you who want to try something new or just need a little shriek in your week, try playing with the underside and inside of your man’s genitals. And please, if you have any questions or want to share how it went for you, feel free to email me at reply@getlusty.com.

Call her Tia Champagne. She's a recent graduate of the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champagne. During her college career, she was part of a volunteer group called the Sexual Health Peers where she bonded with like-minded, sex positive people from various backgrounds and orientations. She has taught workshops on STDs, birth control, safe sex, and relationships. It was one of the highlights of her college career and allowed her to get involved in Planned Parenthood of Illinois in Action. She was a Campaign Organizer who stood for the reproductive rights of women in Illinois.

As a third-wave feminist, she currently works in the makeup industry promoting what she believes in: women should feel and be as beautiful as they want to without scrutiny. She believes in teaching factual and healthy outlooks on sex and relationships as a way to create a sex-positive culture where future generations can thrive.

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Another Reason to Have Great Sex: It Makes You Live Longer

We all know that a great sex life is important and good for our health, but did you know it could help you live longer? Here at GetLusty, we're all about finding solutions to life's biggest challenge: having an amazing sexual relationship. GetLusty staff writer, Eileen Prouffe, offers 3 lusty ways to extend your life-span.

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Maybe your sex is lackluster. Maybe you need a little inspiration for better sex. What better inspiration than having a longer and more fulfilling life? Whether you could barely feel anything or they thought you were a mechanical bull, bad sex sucks and it's very unfulfilling. Having great orgasms can actually help lengthen your life. By having bad sex you are not letting this process occur in your body and mind. 

Here's three reasons why sex can lengthen your life:

#1 Orgasms can reduce cancer risk   

According to a study published in the Journal of the American Medical Association,  men who ejaculate more frequently in their 20s are less likely to get prostate cancer when they're older. So make sure you are getting the sexual pleasure that you need in your relationships. 

#2 Reduces stress and anxiety

Not surprisingly, according to Princeton University research, sexual experiences reduce stress and anxiety. Stress can be a bummer for any relationship, so talk to your partner about new ways of having better sex and stop those inhibitions from getting in the way of your longevity.

#3 Increases endorphins

It has been suggested in the scientific community that a regular release of endorphins might increase longevity. Having regular sex that gets your heart pumping and that makes you feel good can release these endorphins.  If you read through the studies, you'll see that it isn't just the act of sex that benefits your physiology. The point is to get all those chemicals flowing. If your partner is skimping out on you and your body, then it's time to have a talk. If they don't know how to improve, offer to help. 

Remember, your partner doesn't know what you are experiencing sexually if you don't tell him or her. I'm not saying that sex is everything in a relationship, but it is a huge part of it. Just like money is not everything either, but let's face it, we all need it. There are many aspects to a relationship, and sexual harmony is one of the most important for a lasting relationship. Check out our collection of articles on improving sex with your partner.

Many studies show that people who have relationships live longer than people who are single, so keep that love flowing and make sure you take the time and effort to nurture your partner. Some people are too embarrassed to speak up and tell their partner that they are unsatisfied and they just deal with it. This is no way to go through life. You deserve to be touched and pleased the way that you want to be, so do yourself a favor and speak up. Also, it doesn't hurt to ask your partner the truth about whether or not you are really satisfying them. 

No matter what the case or the excuse, don't let yourself get stuck in a bad sex rut. If it happens, start communicating and exploring. With these health benefits, orgasms are a healthy and natural process that not only we want to happen, but that need to happen.

No one wants to shorten their lives, so if there are ways that you can help prolong your life then do it! That's right don't just sit there. Stop reading and go have some lusty sex.

Eileen Prouffe is a GetLusty staff writer with over ten years as a working mom trying to keep her love alive. If she's not having fun with her three kids, she's staring into the eyes of her loving husband. She looks forward to sharing her ideas, tips and knowledge with everyone to help improve relationships and put an end to dull sex lives. Get in touch with Eileen at eileen@getlusty.com.

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Tighten Up! How to Practice your Kegels

You'd think this is how to exercise your Kegel muscles. No. But doing your Kegels are just as simple! Think of the benefits of working out: it improves your sex life, outlook on life and self-esteem (it's Naked November, after all). The human body consists of several hundred muscles. Exercising each and every muscle can be a bit daunting--but it doesn't have to be. Today, we would like to share some exercise tips for the all important Kegel muscles. What makes them so important? How does one exercise their Kegel muscles anyway? GetLusty's Jason Estrada reports.

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Raise your hand if you know what and where your pubococcygeus (PC) muscles are. Never heard of it? Well, you might wanna pay attention. The PC muscles are part of the pelvic floor, and these muscles play a big role in your daily life. These muscles stretch from your anus to your urinary sphincter and hold your internal organs in place.

Back in 1948 a doctor by the name of Arnold Kegel published something called a pelvic floor exercise. Today, we call it a Kegel exercise. All it really consists of is repetitive contractions and relaxation of the muscles that form part of the pelvic floor. Most people, today, refer to them as the "Kegel muscles."

Below are reasons why you want to exercise these muscles:

Pregnant Women

All sorts of craziness happens to a woman's body during, and after, pregnancy. I don't mean "craziness" - I mean, a woman's body is endowed with natural and beautiful manifestations. Beautiful things like vaginal prolapse, uterine prolapse, and urinary incontinence. Kegel exercises can prevent and treat these effects of pregnancy.

Men (pregnant or not)

Don't worry men, you're in no danger of vaginal prolapse, but urinary incontinence does affect you. Another thing to keep in mind is your prostate. Kegel exercises are beneficial in treating prostate pain and swelling due to benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH) and prostatitis.

Better Sex!


Now that we have your attention: Dr. Kegel published a report that claimed women doing these exercises were climaxing more easily, more frequently, and with greater intensity.

Research published in BJU International concluded "that pelvic floor exercises should be considered as a first-line approach for men seeking long-term resolution of their erectile dysfunction. After the 3 month study, 40% of men regained normal erectile function, and 35.5% had experienced some improvement.

Also, having more control over these pelvic muscles is said to have benefits for the problem of premature ejaculation.


Exercises for Women

First, you have to find your pelvic floor muscles. A good trick is to stop urination in midstream. The alternative is doing the same exercise after you've stopped peeing. The muscles that stopped your urine are the ones you're looking for. Now finishing emptying your bladder. You should always have an empty bladder when exercising your pelvic floor muscles.

Now that you're off the "John", go lie on your back. Contract your pelvic floor muscles and hold for 5 seconds, then relax for 5 seconds. Do a set of 4 to 5. Your goal should be to constantly improve the amount of time you can keep the muscles contracted. Work up to 10 second repetitions. Also, keep your focus on the pelvic floor muscles. Don't flex your abs, thighs, or buttocks. This exercise is no different from any other, so keep breathing. Do not hold your breath.

For the gents

Locating the "Kegel" muscles is the same for men. During urination, stop or slow down the flow. Another way - pretend you're trying to stop the passage of gas. Yep, there it is. Squeezing the pelvic floor muscles gives us guys a pulling sensation. Now do it like the ladies. Start with a set of 4 to 5 second contractions, and work your way up to 10 second reps.

The goal for both men and women should be 3 sets of 10 second repetitions each day.

Kegel exercise tools

Naturally, there are a large array of tools manufactured and sold to help exercise this tiny little patch of muscles.

Kegel Balls: Also known as ben wa, these weighted pairs of glass or metal balls are inserted into a woman's vagina for the mere purpose of having something to hold onto.

Vaginal Cone: These weighted devices work like the Kegel balls. These cones can be rigid or filled with gel or a fluid. Once inserted, just hold on.

Biofeedback: It's not as intense as it sounds. That's a lie - it is pretty extreme. Biofeedback uses electrical stimulation to help identify your pelvic muscles, and can also exercise the muscles for you.



Kegel Exerciser: These are meant for resistance training. It looks like a hand grip strengthener. After it's inserted into the woman's vagina, the handles are spread apart. The woman, then, squeezes the handles together, building muscle strength by holding the device closed for several seconds.

If you can't seem to locate your "Kegel" muscles, or are having trouble strengthening the area, go ahead and look into these kinds of tools. If you don't need them, then don't waste your money.

Tool or not, don't ignore the importance of a strong pubococcygeus muscle. Stay Lusty!

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Jason Estrada is currently working on his master's for creative writing, in the hopes of becoming a very rich screenwriter some day. His other interests include photography, cinematography, and video editing. His favorite book is The Great Gatsby. Favorite movie is either The Crow or When Harry Met Sally - can't decide. And his all time favorite show is Doctor Who.

When he's not enjoying any of those things, you can find him at home, drinking and smoking way too much while listening to VNV Nation. Connect with him via email at jason@getlusty.com or subscribe via Facebook.

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