5 Tips to Kiss Like a Superstar

Because superstars are amazing kissers. Either way, kissing is beautiful! Who doesn't enjoy a great kiss as part of  foreplay? Kissing is a wonderful part of foreplay. And what better time to think about how to enjoy your lover than Dick & Dildo December? Well, have we got some great tips for you! Dr. Carlen, our favorite Sexologist from London, Ontario, is here to give you some tips to make the most of this aspect of your foreplay experience.

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One of the most iconic visuals of love and admiration that pop culture falls back on is through the public witness of a kiss. One can say that a kiss can either make or break not only you, but a potential intimate relationship. Bad kissing is up there for being one of the top ten reasons why you shouldn’t turn down a second date, but who’s to say it doesn’t have a small part if you’re sitting on the edge?

“The definition of a kiss is relatively simple: It is either the mouth-to-mouth orientation of two individuals or the pressing of one’s lips on some other part of another’s body” (Science of Kissing, Sheril Kirshenbaum). Kissing, no matter where you`re from, how you do it or who you`re doing it to is one of the most intimate ways we can connect with another person. In our swapping of spit, twisting tongues and locking lips, kissing has always been part of the language of love, yet only a few have mastered it’s techniques.

Whether it’s innate or a cultural phenomenon, the panel is still out. Either way, here are a few tips for making your next kiss a lip locker rocker rather than a tongue tied mistake.

#1 Oral hygiene

Is your mouth well equipped to take on a lip locking adventure? What some people forget is that a kiss not only involves just the lips, but when you’re rolling in the deep the rest of your mouth comes along for the ride. Keeping your oral hygiene up by visiting your dentist at minimum twice per year, along with your own personal regiment requires planning and toothy tenacity that can make or break you at ‘hello’.

Make sure you’re rocking some fresh breath, keeping your tongue scraped daily and floss when you can. No one likes the entrée to appear in their mouth after dessert. On a big date and need to keep it fresh? Don’t worry it’s easy to make sure you’re packing. Keeping a pack of breath mints or gum makes sure you’ve practiced safe breathe & kiss safely (Dentyne gum); especially if you’re a lover of fine foods such as coffee, wine or garlic. Taking care of your entire mouth will only make it more appealing when those pearly whites appear for a good ol’ flirt-on.

#2 Loaded lips

As sexy as it is in music videos when the star has lacquered lips – along with a makeup artist and professional lighting, one of the downsides is usually a main squeeze with a glossy face that is nothing short of just a sticky mess. Lip chap, lipstick with stain, and a light gloss that you can reapply all keep your pout pretty but make them kissable and fabulously desirable at the same time.

Men need to be aware of lip maintenance care too. No one likes to kiss a chappy chap! All men, especially when you’re facing cold & dry climates, need to also remember to keep their lips luscious with some daily maintenance too. Keep a lip balm with SPF in your man bag, inner coat pocket or desk drawer. Balms with mint, light berry or my favourite Dr. Pepper flavors keep any lip lover always coming back for a second taste.

#3 Kissing style

Whether you’re in a heavy make out or having your first kiss, when the slip of the tongue ensues, keep it classy & sassy instead of saucy and raunchy. If you find that your mate is pulling away a little, they might just be coming up for air and trying to avoid the suction of your Bermuda-triangle tongue. Mix up your style to avoid this mishap! A little lip suck, a mildly twisty tongue, a bottom lip nibble… all bring you attention when penning your kiss signature. But just be sure you exercise your new techniques at the right time. No one likes to see a make out session in front of Grandma at Thanksgiving. Light kisses, deep kisses, fun kisses and pecks are all ways to mix it up and keep your lover at labial attention.

#4 The body kiss

It’s easy to forget that an awesome kiss involves more than just the right lip lock magic. To leave a lasting impression involves your whole body.

Using your hands to lightly caress her back, pressing your hips closer to theirs, blowing lightly on their necks and nibbling their earlobes are all ways to pump up the volume on a kiss that will leave a lasting impression.

Often, we can find ourselves focusing too much on our mouths instead of feeling the flow of the moment. Kissing on the lips is only one way we can connect with our mouths physically to someone. It’s important to use the rest of your body to send positive signals that you’re in the moment and you’re just as interested as they are. The right caress or kiss in another erogenous zone, such as the neck or collarbone can trigger pleasurable sensations that pulse right through the entire body.

#5 Luscious lip attitude

The main thing to remember when deciding to go in for the kill is to have confidence and a sexified attitude. Having the confidence and knowing for you that you are a delicious diva and can pick up that lover for a ride to pleasure town is one of the hottest assets a person can have. It’s all about your attitude and confidence going into it. If you’re having fun, your lip locking lover will be too! So get out there and make sure they remember you with your signature kiss.

Originally posted on Dr. Carlen's Sexy Living Tumblr.

Dr. Carlen Costa is pretty awesome. A resident of London, Ontario in Canada, she's making waves in London and beyond.

As a Sexologist, "Sexy Living with Dr. Carlen" is the creation of a safe space in order to discuss concerns, desires or general questions in regards to your relationship with your partner, yourself, and others. Send me questions, send me your thoughts! Through this we will cater to all orientations, genders and age groups. We are all Sexy beings, and should feel as such in our own skins. Find Dr. Carlen on Twitter @DrCarlen and 'Like' her Facebook page.

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8 Fun Sex Facts You Should Know

Just because you've had plenty of sex doesn't mean you know it all! Sexual pleasure can be a learning process overtime as bodies change and so likes and dislikes. GetLusty writer Eileen Prouffe hopes that some of these fun sex facts will bring about more pleasure and fun for you and your partner. Read on!

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#1 Size doesn't really matter

For the gents out there: penis size doesn't matter as much as we might think it does. The average penis size internationally is around 5-7 inches (erect). The average non-child bearing woman’s vagina is only 3 inches long when not aroused (measured from the opening of the vagina to the tip of the cervix). Once she’s sexually excited, her vagina only extends another inch or so. Though some women have more vaginal depth. According to Ask Alice, "Regardless, during arousal, blood flows to the genital area, and sexual excitement causes the upper two-thirds of the vagina to lengthen by forcing the cervix and uterus to ascend." We recently addressed this noting penis size doesn't matter.

#2 It'll whip you to shape

Of course, some of the positions in our sex positions library are more 'advanced' than others. Imagine the difference between athletic sex, a few swings of your whip for a little spanking session or full-on athletic sex. An average person of about 150 lbs can burn about 216 calories in about 45 minutes of sex. There's also a more comprehensive list of calories burned during sexual activity including New Yorker sex versus Los Angeles counterparts, spanking and even "after watching a Paris Hilton video," from the Calorie Lab as published in the American Journal of Exercise Calorimetry in August 2006. So, if your issue is that you don't have time for sex and working out then, just have sex and kill two birds with one stone.

#3 The G-spot is named after a German physician

The G stands for the Gräfenberg spot which was named by Ernst Gräfenberg, a German physician who studied women's orgasms. Though there is still controversy about whether G-spots really does exist (GetLusty ladies are in agreement for an emphatic, "YES!"). Even well-researched Sex Expert Debby Herbenick isn't completely sure the G-spot even exists. The definitive answer? Some women feel that they definitely have a g-spot, while others do not. Personally, I feel that I do have one because I know that there is a little spot down there where amazing things can start happening. Can't find yours? Not to worry. We've written extensively on G-spot orgasms, including the most recent on having G-spot orgasms during cunnilingus. Also, we have recommendations of books on G-spot orgasms and even squirting 101.

#4 Semen could make you happier

A recent study done at the State University of New York in Albany, suggests that semen can be an antidepressant. This study found that women who have vaginal sex without a condom show fewer signs of depression than women who abstain or regularly use condoms. Other research has shown that semen may also boost your cardio health. Although these sources have not been proven, it doesn't hurt to try. 

#5 Kissing causes happiness

Sure, there may be times when people don't bother to kiss while having sex because they are in a hurry or because they haven't brushed their teeth yet, but according to WebMD, kissing can really bring people closer together and make them feel more of a connection. Sometimes couples who have been together for a while start to skip this part of the relationship, but really you should consider rekindling it and making it a priority. Kissing is considered a really intimate way to connect with a person so maybe that's why a kiss can be highly valued. Get your smooches on!

#6 Sex can boost your immune system

Both having sex and having an orgasm have numerous health benefits, including boosting your immune system. Scientists have proven that having sex twice or more a week can boost your immunity and help prevent diseases like a common cold or other infections. Because people who have regular sex are exposed to more infectious agents. The body then responds by increasing antibodies and boosting the immune system. This winter, it may be beneficial to take more trips to the bedroom with your partner instead of going to the pharmacy.

#7 The clitoris has more nerve endings than a penis

The clitoris has 7000 nerve endings while a penis has about 4000. This may help explain why some women may be more sensitive and particular in the way that they like to be touched. Not all women prefer the same thing so, it takes a little exploration to figure out what each individual prefers. For those continuing the sexual exploration process, we recommend female masturbation to learn more about what stimulates you best.

#8 The left side of the clitoris is more pleasurable than the right

If you're looking to explore her vulva and clitoris, how about trying it a little to the left? In the book Extended Massive Orgasm, Steve and Vera Bondansky found that it pays off to aim to the left. It was discovered that most women interviewed for the book found that the upper-left quadrant of the clitoral head is more sensitive than the right. Go ahead and tell your partner to go left!

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Eileen Prouffe is a GetLusty staff writer with over ten years as a working mom trying to keep her love alive. If she's not having fun with her three kids, she's staring into the eyes of her loving husband. She looks forward to sharing her ideas, tips and knowledge with everyone to help improve relationships and put an end to dull sex lives. Get in touch with Eileen at eileen@getlusty.com.

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5 Ways to Have a More Seductive Thanksgiving

It seems that most people don't think Thanksgiving can be sexy. In fact, it could be considered the most unsexy holiday possible. We don't buy it! This isn't just a day for grandparents and cousins, it's a day spent with your sexy partner. GetLusty's Matt Stickles gives five ways to make your day of giving thanks a sexy one.

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#1 Cuddle when you have the chance

Be sure to cuddle up with one another. Thanksgiving can be quite a hectic time, especially if your hosting. You and your partner can only benefit from a little bit of cuddling in the morning and at night. Nothing helps you forget the stresses of cooking and family drama like holding your partner in your arms when you get a break. If you decide you want to make moves past cuddling, go for it!

#2 Fun under the table

Just because you're married or have been together for a while doesn't mean you can't play. In fact, quite the opposite. Playing footsie under the table is a great way to remind your partner that you are still thinking about them. You still find them just as appetizing as the the delicious food on top of the table! If you are sitting next to your partner, then a discretely wander your hand over to their lap--it can be pretty seductive!

#3 Play in the kitchen 

If your hosting, cooking can be a major hassle. Even though putting together a great meal for a lot of people is a major stress, you and your partner can make it fun by fooling around in the kitchen! Drip some cranberry sauce on his or her neck, put a drop of whip cream on their chest, then help them with the clean-up by licking it off. If your kitchen is separate from the festivities, and you two are all alone for a moment, have yourselves a quick make-out session. There's nothing much sexier than sneaking around with inappropriate behavior.

#4 Massages

You just ate your own weight in turkey, mashed potatoes, and stuffing. The both of you just want to lay on the couch and veg out, neither of you feeling very sexy. However, a little massage is a great way to make each other feel better and maybe even get in the mood. A full body massage might be out of the question, due to that food-baby sitting in your belly. But you can still rub their feet, shoulders, scalp, hands, and arms. As long your partner is not resting on their stomach, mini massage feel amazing and are welcomed touches (do ask first, though).

#5 A Thanksgiving quickie

If you're hosting Thanksgiving dinner this year, then you have all kinds of options for some sexy fun. At some point during the festivities, sneak off with your partner to the bedroom for a quicky. Too much for you? How about a quick blow job in the bathroom? You don't even have to go as far as those things. Find a place with a locked door, throw a hand down his pants, or up her skirt, and just give a taste of what's waiting for them.

Our newest writer is a history, sex and love... lover, Matt Stickles.

Matt is a recent grad from the University of Kansas with Bachelor's degrees in History and Anthropology. Matt currently lives just outside of Chicago. When Matt is not writing and reading articles on GetLusty for Couples, you can catch him getting drinks with friends, reading science fiction, watching the Jayhawks dominate college basketball, or hanging out with Hannah, his Bernese Mountain dog. Have questions, comments or concerns? E-mail him at matt@getlusty.com.

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Kiss Your Best! Try These 4 Tips

Kissing is wonderful foreplay! Kissing is the most common and publicly acceptable way for a couple to express their passion for one another. Whether you're 16 and going to see a movie with someone from school or married for 25 years and with kids, smooching never seems to get old. In this article, Dr. Megan Stubbs offers some advice on the benifits of kissing and making your next kiss the best one possible. Read on!

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In our culture, kisses play an important role in our younger years. We are told about how our “first kiss” should be and we come up with all kinds of crazy ways to get them. Spin the bottle anyone?

It’s OK if your first kiss wasn’t great! Not all first kisses are great. How was yours? Was it mind blowing, or were you so nervous that you thought you were going to throw up? Either way, it was a learning experience for you and now you know what you like or don’t like. There will be more, trust me, both good and bad.

Kissing comes with many health benefits too:

Over 30 facial muscles are involved in making a kiss happen. Using these muscles can help keep your cheeks tight and in perfect pucker shape.

Looking to burn some calories? While kissing, you can burn up to 3 calories per minute. I know its menial, but it is still a win-win.

Stressed out? Try kissing. Oxytocin, otherwise known as the love hormone, is released when you kiss and can help aid in calming you down as well as reaffirm your romantic attachment to your partner.

Some suggestions to make your next kiss unforgettable:

#1 Use a breath mint first

So, maybe this isn't always an issue. But sometimes bad breath can kill a kissing moment. Make sure you have good breath. Bad breath could hint to your partner that you are bad with oral hygiene, so make sure you’re freshly brushed or throw a mint in.

#2 Tongue first? No, no!

Don’t go in tongue first! Start with light kisses that just barely brush your partner’s lips. Once things have progressed, feel free to increase the intensity of your kiss. Pretend you’re licking an ice cream cone for a guide to the right pace; slowly and sensuously.

#3 Try opening your eyes

Go ahead and take peek! We’ve all heard the rule “no eyes open during kissing” and its time to throw that out. Don’t worry that it might be weird because of your face placement; open your eyes during your kiss to make a special connection with your partner.

#4 Explore the map

Explore the map. No one said kisses are limited to the lips alone. Take a journey around your partner’s body with kisses. Some often overlooked erotic areas are behind the ear, elbow creases, behind the knee, and feet. Try different areas and find out where your partner’s special zones are. They could surprise you!

So whether you cheek kiss, air kiss, kiss someone’s hand, Eskimo kiss, blow kisses, sign kisses, or just eat them, they’re an easy way to show someone your affection. And when it comes to sex, everything is OK here. Also, mark your calendars. International Kissing Day is July 6th!

Cross-posted with permission from SexologistMegan.

Dr. Megan Stubbs is a Grand Rapids-based Sexologist. She holds a doctor of education in Human Sexuality from San Francisco’s Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality and a degree in Biology from Grand Valley State University. She is also Board Certified by the American College of Sexologists (ACS).

Dr. Megan is a firm believer that knowledge is power and that comprehensive sex education is not only valuable to budding teens, but to all of society. This Sexologist strives to break down the societal norms that sex is still a taboo subject and wants to normalize the conversation. She wants to empower everyone into taking control and respecting their sexuality. Megan is monthly contributor to the number one night-time radio show in West Michigan, Holmes and the Freakshow on 104.5 WSNX and also appears bi-weekly on a morning talk show, Take Five & Company on WZZM 13. Follow her on Twitter @sexologistmegan and 'Like' Megan on Facebook.

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